to moan here about my sil, but join, have a giggle and let off steam too...

[bb99]

First I do like my SIL (most of the time) especially when we only see her and not all the in-laws together (this has a very bad affect on her). She has said stupid and offensive things over the years (as I am sure I have from time to time), like 'gosh when I found out (about your horrendous late mc when your darling first born son died and your heart broke into a million pieces) from mum, I thought someone IMPORTANT had died... but I am sure it was just a slip of the tongue in a very awkward moment - what do you say?

OK, so she's tired and had to go back to work and considerably poorer than she'd like to be (having travelled around the world on holiday for 3 years, 2 of which were with partner - poor her) and she had a tough birth (didn't we all?) and they're very hard up - only managing one of their soon to be 3 or 4, haven't decided yet, foreign holidays so far this year...and has not found motherhood the breeze she's been telling the rest of us who already had kids it is and that we should be X or Y or friend 'isn't coping as she should cos of this and that' (put claws away NOW)

BUT am IBU to be a bit fed up with making allowances after all we're ALL tired and ALL fed up about going back to work.

Once again the clan gathering behaviour has taken the biscuit...

Surely I would be being VERY unreasonable if I whipped out my chest and started feeding dc whilst stating that 'I don't approve of formula fed babies' as she chugs formula into her DC, but it's OK for her to gaze on disapprovingly, stating that 'I (SIL) don't approve X brand baby food, only home made...' as I chug a jar of brand X into my dc

BTW I don't mind at all if people FF or BF, it's a personal thing.

Unfortunately our refrigerated lorry wasn;t working this w/end so we couldn't get the home made freezer food around the M25 ...

And the abuse that flies around if anyone appears to even be approaching centre stage is becoming (for me) beyond a joke! It just runs and runs, rather like this post. All OH says is 'she's very tired and we have to make allowances' as does everyone - FIL even went as far this w/end as attempting to make out it was OK for me to go back to work as I had had more time off, but poor, poor SIL was going to have a really hard and difficult time.

That's the bit that really gets to me, the poor, poor SIL! It does sound (and probably is) petty but FFS it's been nearly a year now with no let up and doesn't look as if it's going to change anytime soon...maybe fewer on mass visits to the in-laws

Anyway, I will put my claws away now and go back to being reasonable and making allowances...for now

Anyway, just letting off steam

[HonoriaGlossop]

don't make allowances, speak up, disagree.

You will feel SO much better.

It doesn't have to be done in an agressive way but you do have the right to have your own views. Sometimes it's good just to say "well that's your view, I don't agree" and leave it at that.

they sound deeply annoying

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Clearly you do a better job of looking like you cope

[colacubes]

Flamin hell bb, she sounds like a right cow! She's a spoilt brat, ignore her,

tbh, shes not worth the trouble, honestly shes so wrapped up in her own importance that even if you did say something she really would have no clue what you were on about, just laugh at how pathetic she is, leave her to it, plus how boring if all she ever does is complain and bitch. I always find that being nice to a bitch is fun, they really dont know what to do, disarms them completley.

And what she said about your ds, my god she's lucky she's still got her teeth, you were very forgiving, she really is a nasty piece of work, the moo.