I've been accused of hacking my ex husbands phone

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I've been speaking to a friend over the past few months and we've been speaking sometimes about my ex husband and he's been telling me things he knows about my ex husband as well. Now according to the police he's apparently been hacking my ex husbands phone, although I didn't know this, the first I knew about was when the police interviewed me about it. I didn't realise at the time but it's likely now that the things he told me he knew about my ex were obtained through phone hacking but I didn't know this at the time obviously. The police are now treating me as a suspect as well, they either think I knew the information that he was telling about my ex was obtained through phone hacking or that I was also hacking the phone of my ex as well. I think the police I was telling my friend to hack his phone but I wasn't. I genuinely knew nothing about any phone hacking until the police interviewed me about it. AIBU to think it's ridiculous that I'm being treated as a suspect just because my friend was apparently hacking my ex husbands phone? It's all just so stressful but I've genuinely done nothing wrong and didn't know about any phone hacking until the police interviewed me about it, my current DH is going mad at me and is threatening to leave me over this even though I haven't done anything.

So is there a possibility that he thinks you were having an emotional affair with this man?

Would the police question someone about hacking a Facebook account or would there need to be harassment or stalking too?

What kind of “information” was it

You sound like you are in total denial about anything .
You are married and talk to a man about your ex husband. .
Stalking aside I feel sorry for your dh. .
Not really looking very trust worthy OP

Is your ex famous

I'm also interested as to what kind of information it was.

and HOW did he access your ex's phone? He must have physically had it in his possession to hack it musn't he? (I don't know much about hacking though)

OP you’re going to get a hard time on here it would seem.

im sure many many people speak with friends about their exes and many many people like to hear what their exes are up to and gossip/chat about them. This doesn’t mean we’ve asked or encouraged anyone to hack their phones.

if you haven’t asked this person to have your ex’s phone then there will be no evidence and it’ll be ok?

what was your friend’s motivation to do this and how were they caught out?

Well this is out of the ordinary even for mumsnet!

You're remarried and your ex is a major point of conversation with friends?

Of course your husband is upset. What on earth are you doing?

This is a very high stakes version of those threads where an OP insists they’re not cheating and you can’t help but suspect the OP has started it purely to leave lying around for their other half to “stumble across”. Either way, probably not a wise move to be posting about an ongoing criminal investigation on MN.

The OP hasn't said, but maybe she has children with him.

My said friend was encouraging OP to talk about her ex for his own information-gathering reasons

This!

And why is your friend hacking your ex? And why are you bothered or entertaining convos about your ex when you're married?

I smell a rat

Bollocks have they interviewed you for hacking. They can't even come out to robberies unless they're happening live due to cuts.

I think there is a whole heap you are missing out from this, people cant properly reply until you give it all if real

I have 2 DC from my previous relationship with my ex. I honestly didn't know about any phone hacking until the police interviewed me about it.

The police are asking you questions as part of an ongoing investigation. It doesn't necessarily mean they see you as a suspect - although obviously they may do. They will want to rule your involvement in or out. Maybe your friend the hacker has said something to implicate you, or maybe it's the pure fact of your past relationship with your ex.

If they do suspect you of a crime, their suspicion counts for nothing if they cannot gather enough evidence against you. If they can elicit a confession from you, that's very good evidence. They are simply doing their job by questioning you.

Have the police got your phone?

This, it seems odd if you were discussing smth other than childcare.