Really don’t want to work

[Itsbluemondayapparently]

I know, I know, most people don’t, but it’s getting worse, I’m always so close to cancelling and I just can’t. I work part time around my Dd, but generally do everything else, every pick up and drop off, all bills & organisation, all cooking, shopping etc etc
I work a lot less hours than Dh, but bring in a good amount and get paid three times what he does per hour. My job involves some planning work, so time I am at home, I’m never really relaxing at all. I have a chronic illness and am likely peri. I’m just tired all the time and just want to sit on my sofa and watch tv/read a lot of the time. I wouldn’t say I’m depressed, I see friends and have bursts of energy when feeling well and take the dog on long walks etc, I also do lots of activities with Dd
Ive started to do more hours and feel like my heads spinning, I feel anxious before working and just don’t want to do it! I have another twenty odd years left

|You say you've started to do more hours, why is that? |How many hours do you do now and how many were you doing before you did more?

Can you go back to doing the original amount of hours? Would that help? Otherwise, yes, give up work. Be mindful though that it's a big responsibility to put on the sole earner.

I think its normal to feel like that especially since you mentioned peri, and young child! Maybe explore different career options/ side hustles and especially things you have a natural passion for to 'test out the water' and see how you feel. I say that because I started a independent travel business, and its given me a lease of life. Haven't left my day job, yes its time consuming BUT its given me more motivation as its something I'm passionate about and so life.. feels... a little more balanced!

Maybe explore kicking your husband in the bum to get him to move. You get paid three times what he does per hour, yet generally do everything else, every pick up and drop off, all bills & organisation, all cooking, shopping etc?

You should go to work full time and he should do generally do everything else, every pick up and drop off, all bills & organisation, all cooking, shopping etc. I bet you’ll have more energy then, focusing on one thing rather than a million.

Is the problem that you have increased your hours but your husband has not increased his share of the load at home so now you are still doing everything but working more?

Is there a way that you can fix it so that you do your planning outside the house (cafe type working space?) so it doesn’t “infect” your home. I have stopped “hybrid working” for this reason - I only work in the office. My home is mine!