He messages me after midnight

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STBXH has a bad habit of texting/emailing and replying to me (about non-urgent matters) at unreasonable times, midnight, 1 or 2am.

For the record we've been separated for 2.5 years, he is seeing someone. Our relationship is not amicable and things have been very tense due to divorce, finances and childcare.

AIBU for thinking his behaviour is inappropriate?

Archive and notifications off is your friend. I’m in a chat with my hubby and MIL and she pings utter crap all day long. So it’s archived and muted and I just check it every now and then.

Yes absolutely this.

My phone is on silent overnight, it matters not in the slightest to me who messages or calls because it doesn't disturb me.

The time stamp on the text is therefore irrelevant to me - I will reply when it's convenient for me, and that's all that matters really.

I don't see why the timing of his messages/emails is inappropriate, or why it matters at all? People communicate whenever's convenient for them. I've sent many messages and emails after midnight. Then you reply when it's convenient for you. That's how it works.

Set your phone to silent when you go to sleep so you don't get woken up, but beyond that it's a non-issue.

iPhones let you put on a ‘focus’ mode which allows you to put any combination of apps / people on silent etc. So create one called ‘Irritating ex’ and switch it on at 10pm.