I'm tired too

[Dazedandfrazzled]

My 2.5 woke up two nights ago at 3am for an hour or so, and also did this last Monday. Today woke around 6am. (Usually a good sleeper, but seems to be going through a but of a sleep regression for about 2 months).
My DH asked me something and I said I was tired, he replied "Me Too". That really, really pissed me off as he's slept through all of that. Am I just being a cow? I know it's not meant to be a tiredness competition, but the comparison has really annoyed me.

I used to really hate that. I would be up all night with my children and up for good at about 6 am. My ex used to sleep in the spare room on a different floor, get up whenever he felt like it and whenever I said I was tired, he would say he was, too, and used to follow it with I'm going to go for a bit of a lie down now.

YANBU, in fact, next time DS wakes up out of schedule, it's hubby's turn to get up with him. You roll over and go back to sleep.

He's being a twat. Did he grow the baby and give birth?

Wtf does that have to do with anything? What a sexist comment. Please don’t use having a womb as some sort of mic drop. Weird.

OP - does he normally pull his weight on nights? Feels like you’ve got very irritated from what could be a throwaway comment. Personally speaking I’m always tired so might not clock the context of you having had a harder night and I definitely wouldn’t connect it with a restless night a week ago... However, if he never gets up with your child it would absolutely annoy me!

NBU at all my partner does the same.I think unless you’ve been the primary caregiver (which you will have been assuming you took maternity leave) for a baby for 2.5 years, done the newborn nights, the regressions etc you can’t possibly know how tiring it is. So in his defence I guess he may not entirely ‘get’ it BUT even so the supportive response would be to provide some sympathy.

Infuriating! Nothing annoys me more than my partner announcing they are going for a nap when I’ve been up all night with our 4mo lol

You are right. It isn’t a competition. He may be tired for a different reason-hard week at work (hopefully you both work), illness, stress.

Ahhh, competitive tiredness. Never ends well in this house

It's not just men, though. I cop similar from a friend who I tell occasionally how I am.on my knees and desperately need a break from my kids. She says 'Me too. I'm sooooo exhausted'.

She's an SAHM with a MIL who looks after her DC around 40% of the time, including school pickups/drop offs, (because she's too tired, apparently), taking them to their activities, for most weekends, etc. The last comment was after a two week, child free overseas holiday with her DH (MIL had them). I won't lie, I had to walk away before I exploded.

I have zero childcare. None. I have to deal with it all, even when ill (DH will help any time I ask, but his job is difficult to get time off short notice). I've not had an hour off all holidays (summer hols here). Really, really pisses me off. DH & I can't even go to a meal out alone. We have elderly parents relying on us, too.

Some people are just insensitive, and completely selfish.

For context, I'm a SAHM, but he's been on holiday for 3 weeks. He doesn't do anything during the week, but does 'help' somewhat during the weekend (after a year of doing nothing). I wouldn't expect him to do a night anyway as he's working, but just wanted a bit of rant, I think it's the dismissiveness of the "yeah me too" ... some sympathy would've been nice, even just a sympathetic smile. I feel it's a good way to start an argument. I really need to work on some meditation techniques! Thanks for listening 🙃