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AIBU?

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Aibu to be annoyed?

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Unicornsarentreal · 14/01/2024 18:35

Aibu to be annoyed when I hear some type of questions over and over? I had a good childhood and i am close with my mom (or so I thought) but whenever she comments something it sounds like its negative. Hard to explain so few questions:

-went out for a dinner with a friend, doesn’t happen often due to kids and just life in general. We were in the restaurant for 2.5hrs. “Oh is that it? You should have gone for 4 hours since you dont go out”

-went out for a dinner with husband. Got a burger or something “oh you had a chance you should have gotten something expensive”

-bought an amazing dress “i should have gotten one more in different colour”

every single time i could have more fun, should have done something better or whatever. And she says it in a joking way. its really deflating. When i get irritated i am the silly one cause she is joking, she can never says anything, she doesnt say anything wrong etc etc, and she gets irritated more with my irritation so i just let it go.

i might not be thinking straight as i am on antidepressants(upped dose few days ago), awaiting a therapy and trying online cbt in a meantime.

OP posts:
Bernieee · 14/01/2024 18:44

It’s because there’s a hint of criticism that’s why you’re offended. The things she says veer on being a backhanded compliment/unsolicited advice - all things have a criticism at the root

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