It’s another bill splitting one, sorry

[BarbaraWoodlouse]

Nobody’s going to fall out over this so not technically an AIBU but I’m interested to see how the voting plays out.

Friends trip away, accommodation chosen to ensure everyone has a proper bed - ie no sofa bed or the Mumsnet favourite “box room”. Due to prior commitments one friend will come a day late.

YABU - Accommodation costs split equally as bigger accommodation was chosen based on size of full group
YANBU - Costs calculated on a per night basis

The first option.

Split equally as they only chose that property because of number of bedrooms

Split equally. Although your friend might feel differently. I would have discussed this upon booking.

Was it known from the start that the friend was coming a night less? If so it should be on a per person per night basis. If it's been a change of plan then they still owe for the extra night.

If the trip was extended by those who can do the extra day, then the ones staying the extra night split the cost of the extra night. If the trip was always going to be this long and one friend cut their trip short then split equally.

I would say spilt equally but out of interest, how long is the full trip

Definitely equal split.

Obviously, split equally.

It's been chosen so she has a room.
The others won't use the room the night she's not there.

accommodation chosen to ensure everyone has a proper bed

Split equally.

And I say that as the friend who could only come to a hen party weekend a day later than everyone else.

Clearly equally.

Four nights. One will only stay three.

Actually there are two trips being planned (big birthdays year!) where the same type of discussion is happening. Definitely privileged position and nobody is going to fall out, just interested in people’s perspective.

This

Kind of depends - if it's the kind of place with minimum 4 night stay then an equal split is fair, whereas if from the start one person said 3 nights only and everyone else said let's do 4 then split by per person per night

Split the bills equally as the person staying three nights can turn up anytime they like (unlike a hotel where they would have to wait until check in time). If they want their own room and don't want to sleep on the sofa they still need to pay need to pay for it.

Are you the one going late?

but even if friend had said from the start they could only do 3 days they would still need to book somewhere with enough space for all of them. You wouldn't have 1 air bnb for 3 nights for (say) 4 people and then the remaining 3 move to a different one for the fourth night!

The total cost would be the same, it's not fair for the people staying the whole 4 nights to subsidise the person who can't. The only exception would be as per@RawBloomers if the trip had been extended from what was originally agreed but that isn't the case here.

Like @CharmedCult I've been the person not staying the whole time but have never expected to do anything other than pay an equal share.

Possibly if it was a situation whereby 1 person leaving early would mean the person they had been sharing with then had their own room for a few nights, whereas everyone else shared the whole time, that person could offer the early leaver a small amount as an acknowledgement they'd got a better deal than everyone else, but I wouldn't expect it, particularly only for 1 night's difference.

I go away every year with a large group.

Everyone pays an equal share regardless of how many nights.

I happen to be the one spending less nights. That's entirely my choice.

The accommodation is booked based on the group size.

It's not as if someone else can have the bed for the spare night.

@easylikeasundaymorn

it's not fair for the people staying the whole 4 nights to subsidise the person who can't

It's also not fair for the person staying 3 nights to subsidise the people staying an extra night. If you booked a holiday for 3 nights you'd pay 3 nights, not 4 nights because some of your mates are going for 4 nights. The people going 4 nights need to pay for 4 nights. The person going 3 pays for 3. Unless this wasn't the arrangement from the start and the friend cut short by a night.

It depends on how the starting date was chosen. Was it agreed and then one person decided to come late? Could the whole thing have been shifted a day later to better work for everyone? Was there a minimum number of nights for the rental?

but ultimately, it probably doesn’t make a huge difference in cost once things are divided up, so I would probably just go with people, not person-nights.

Spilt equally but friend coming later has a % knocked off for food

Split equally - does your friend think otherwise?

Having said that, I might feel differently if someone was only coming for 2 of the 4 nights.

It has to be equally as then
larger accomidation has to be bought regardless of when the others arrive in order to accomdate them

Split equally, I can't believe anyone would think it's reasonable to split per night. The reason you need the extra room is because the 4th person is going, therefore they need to pay for the 4th room. Otherwise the three of you could have got a three room cheaper place. The number of nights they choose to come is neither here nor there.

Has to be split equally, otherwise the people staying four nights are paying for a room they don’t need for a night to accommodate the other person coming

I'm in the minority with the votes, but I'd say option 2.

Everyone could stay only 3 nights, then split the cost equally. But the others want the extra night so they should pay. (I'm assuming the person said they could only do 3 nights from the start.)

Also you're not paying just for a bedroom but the whole house, which the others want to use on the extra day.