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AIBU over this sleepover?

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dressinggownqueen1 · 14/01/2024 16:28

Not sure if I'm being an unreasonable weirdo here, but I'm sure you'll keep me right Would appreciate your input.
I'm a single parent of 3 who works full-time. I was very much looking forward to this weekend, as it was going to be really relaxing. I'm exhausted. Reading, Netflix, napping, nice food, not really getting dressed or putting on make-up. Indulging my introvert self! My children were due to be going to their dad's place, where they spend every second weekend.
My 17 year old decided that she didn't want to go to his, as my place is more centrally located for going out at night and then getting back afterwards. Fine, it's her home.
She asked if 3 friends could sleep over after the night out. Two also came here to get ready beforehand. Right, ok, they're nice girls, never a bother, and I want friends to feel welcome.
I did say to my daughter that I wanted them to leave at a decent time today though. Two left early-ish as they had stuff to do. But one is still here, at 4.30pm. I can't relax in the same way, knowing that someone else is here. My rosacea is in full force, I'm in my pyjamas and I've got stuff to do around our flat.
Am I being odd, or is my daughter taking advantage a bit?
Thanks in advance.

OP posts:
Joeslaol00 · 14/01/2024 16:55

I definitely understand. Having people in the house is not the same as having living space completely to yourself!! I have got the house to myself today and overnight and it’s bloody marvellous TBH . Am having a cheeky early cold glass of wine and it’s bliss!

PossumintheHouse · 14/01/2024 16:56

spearthatbroc · 14/01/2024 16:54

what’s “reasonable time” though?

After a night out I’d assess “reasonable time” as by lunchtime. But, yes, it can be interpreted differently.

catelynjane · 14/01/2024 16:59

Honestly, you need to be a bit firmer. If you didn't want your DD to have friends over then you should have said so. If you wanted them gone by 10am, then that's what you should have said.

When I was growing up, my parents often said "no sleepovers this weekend" - and I just, well, accepted it. I either arranged to stay at their house or went without. Your DD doesn't get to just do whatever she likes regardless of anyone else in the house.

spearthatbroc · 14/01/2024 17:01

PossumintheHouse · 14/01/2024 16:56

After a night out I’d assess “reasonable time” as by lunchtime. But, yes, it can be interpreted differently.

but if they didn’t wake up until lunchtime, perhaps a 17 year old thinks 6pn for example

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