Hi!
just want to start off by saying I fully accept I may be being UR or OTT here, just really wanted to gauge some other opinions on this. I’ll hold my hands up and admit I can be totally neurotic and scared to break the law in any way, because I had a pretty horrendous childhood with my parents so I can be OTT at times but I don’t inflict my anxieties on others but equally my anxieties can often colour my view on things
I’m going to try and keep this anonymous in case it ends up outing, but basically we were at an event and I had agreed I would drive back home afterwards as I don’t drink, and it meant the others could drink. We live in Scotland where the drink driving rules are much stricter I believe than in other parts of the uk and you basically can’t have anything and drive afterwards. All was fine, I drove and parked up outside the house. The family member in question is often the driver normally IYSWIM and it’s his car. We went in the house and he asked for the keys (I assumed to hang up) but he said I’m going to move the car as it was sticking out a bit too much. (It wasn’t awful but could do with being moved a wee tiny bit) I immediately said you can’t drive as you’ve been drinking and it ended up in a bit of an argument. He was saying it’s fine as it’s only moving the car, but I was arguing that you can’t possibly get behind the wheel of the car intoxicated as even turning on the engine is an offence let alone moving the car
was I being UR to be so cross? I absolutely detest drink drivers, I think it’s such a scummy thing to do and should be 0 tolerance to it. But his argument was that it’s not the same as actually driving the car, and that it’s only adjusting the parking position. For what it’s worth, we live in a culdesac in a quiet new build estate and it was 11pm so not like it was a busy Main Street etc, but surely it’s still the same principle and it’s drink driving?
i moved the car for him and it was fine, we’ve made up and moved on but I still feel so cross by it as drink driving is something I utterly detest. When I say we argued, it wasn’t a full blown argument with raised voices etc, he was just adamant I was being OTT and I was adamant he was breaking the law. The weird thing is he hates drink drivers too and is usually never the type of person to get into trouble or break the law in anyway.
was I being OTT for being so annoyed about it? I know I’m right in the sense that it’s illegal but was I being dramatic by being so cross about him wanting to do it? And am I being OTT to still be unhappy that he would even have considered it was ok? He wasn’t flat out drunk but was definitely intoxicated -roughly 4 glasses of red wine with food, he could easily walk in a straight line but the law is clear it’s 0 tolerance (as it should be!) and although it was a completely quiet street, and although it’s not like he was driving a journey, it’s still completely unacceptable isn’t it?
if you had a family member or someone close to you who tried to do this, would you be cross and think badly of them for it?