To think this is selfish?

[Deafdonkey]

I appreciate this sounds petty but it is just something in a long line of things.

Adult son bought chips from the chip shop as he was coming home from the pub. He ate about 2/3rds and then asked if we (his parents wanted to finish them)

Said yes and I took one and then offered bag to husband, he proceeded to eat them all, I kept saying please let me have one but he refused and said I wouldn't like them.

I got cross and now he says iabu to be cross. I think it is proof of how selfish he is, he wouldn't even share something that wasn't his in the first place.

Get yourself and son a nice takeaway or make a nice dinner or whatever tomorrow and do NOT give him any.

Absurd behaviour from your H! Greedy and annoying. You should have gobbled them down quickly! Be selfish in return. No need to put up with nonsense.

He's a greedy selfish git! Get yourself a whole bag of chips tomorrow and make sure you eat them in front of him and don't share!

Sorry OP, but if my DH treated me like this I would have gone and got the washing up liquid and squirted it over the whole lot! What an arsehole!

Your husband is obviously in the wrong but also I cannot fathom coming back to my parent's home with chips for just me and not checking (while at the chippy) if my parents wanted something tbh! So in my opinion, both men in your life are equally rude!

What a fucking selfish dick.

Whyyyy do people put up with shit like this in a marriage? I know it's only chips but it's just so indicative of his overall view of you.

My husband got chips on his way home from a work night out last night. Sidled in to me when he got home and drunkenly proffered the bag with all the best crispy chips still in it - he'd saved them for me because he knows I love them.

Get you a man who saves you the crispy chips, even though they're his fav too. Begone the porcine man who only lets you have one measly chip and hogs the rest.

I agree that it was rude/thoughtless of your son not to offer to buy more. Your DH was awful.

Whilst is sounds like I'm defending the men in my life, not sons fault. He didn't get in until 11, we would normally be in bed so wouldn't call or even expect us to be up.

You are all right, it is a pattern of behaviour.

He has never hit me but I wouldn't dream of grabbing them back or getting washing up liquid because I think he might. He would certainly get angry cross and storm off.

I LOVE this.

OP are you saying that you think if you stood up for yourself, it could escalate to violence? Most people would say, 'well so what if he's angry and so what' - but you toe the line because of the atmosphere he would create?

OP would you be open to us helping you unpick the wider picture and advise from there? I suspect you are in an abusive relationship, which can be very confusing. I hope you're OK.