I have been 'seeing' a man for the past 18 months. It's been very up and down with hot and cold behaviour from him. We have spent about 2 sometimes 3 nights together a week. He knew when I met him that I wanted serious, he said he was looking for the same but obviously with no commitment made the past 18 months, this was a lie.
We act like we are in a relationship, I've met his family and him mine. We rely on each other for emotional support etc. it's not a purely sexual thing.
Thursday night he came over and we decided to have a few drinks as both off on Friday. I brought up the fact that I needed more commitment at this stage. He said he couldn't give me that but couldn't give a reason.
I basically told him that he was my guy, that if he was in hospital, I would be there and show up and care for him, I asked if he felt the same and he replied that he didn't 😢. I told him that we need to leave it here then, he said he understood and left and I haven't heard anything.
I'm so so so hurt. How can someone act soooo in to you but not be? How can someone compartmentalise something so much? Can you really switch off feelings because you're not in a committed relationship?
I feel very sad but not able to speak to anyone as it wasn't a 'real' relationship. I feel awful.