I'm 31 year old single mum and three months ago I met a man at my cousins wedding. It has been going really well and although it's early days, I can't quite believe I'm in this situation.
Everything is going great, but not too great where I feel he is love bombing me. Everything is just nice and steady. I am quite an anxious person and some relationships have made me quite unwell due to the constant hot and cold behaviour, inconsistency, overthinking etc. and although I had that when we first started dating, I now feel very secure. He has never cancelled a meet up or a date. I know he will always be in touch. I love his company and chat. Good sex. I don't feel so intense like I have in previous relationships wherein I am constantly thinking about him and believe I've met my 'soulmate'. It's all very comfortable and slow and steady, there is no pressure.
He has seen some behaviour in me (due to my anxiety) that hasn't been ideal yet seems to reassure me and accept this. He is there for me and I feel I'm there for him. I've seen him do some things that make have put me off previous partners but I feel I accept him for who he is. When we are together it is very comfortable, we can happily be in silence (but mostly we are chatting).
I don't feel head over heels crazy for him like I have previously, it's more than that. For once in my life I feel really really stable and secure. I've been single for 7 years, so I know I don't need a man. He's the first man I've been with that I feel allows me to get on with other aspects of my life without him constantly being at the back of my mind distracting me. I don't have to check his last active/online as I know he will be in touch, I don't need to worry about him ghosting me as I believe he would be straight forward and say.
He is reliable and so dependable. He reassures me if I need it (I try and keep this to a minimum) and he is opening up to me which is something he struggles with. He also asks questions about me!! Which I have struggled to find.
Basically, this one feels different to me. In a way I can't really explain. I'm not being swept off my feet but I feel secure. So I'm wondering how others felt when they met their guy?
We both want children, a family life etc. so overall goals the Same