Discord as DP's primary messaging app — red flag?

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Been with DP for 8 months. Most of her personal messages with friends (they're all in the tech field) are over Discord, with WhatsApp being what she uses for work and people she's not too familiar with. We don't use "normal" SMS because our messages are all multimedia heavy.

I've never had a problem with this. I was having dinner with a mate yesterday evening, however, and was told that Discord is primarily used by children and creeps. We're both 30. Would someone using Discord as their primary personal messaging app over WhatsApp/SMS be a red flag to you?

Not at all. It’s a really popular app especially for people into tech and/or gaming

It’s commmon for tech types to use Discord. Don’t worry about it.

I know lots of tech people that use Discord. My DH is one of them.

My husband and I both work in tech areas and most people we work with use Discord lots. It’s probably my DH’s most commonly used method of communication with his friends too. I wouldn’t think twice about them using it.

That's a relief! My ex used Kik (another app that I'm not familiar with) to cheat on me with a bunch of people so I did wonder if Discord was similar.

No it isn't, Discord is primarily used by gamers... Perhaps other groups have moved onto it but no, I wouldn't be worried. You join servers, akin to forums, which usually have a theme e.g. A particular game, streamer's community or friend group and can message and chat within these. There is also the facility to directly message too. I use discord with my friends and am in a couple of game related servers. I suppose there is always the potential for an online forum/message service to be used for I'll purposes but, inherently, discord is no worse than anything else.

Same as PP. Very popular with techy and gaming types.
Not a red flag at all imo

I’m not a child or a creep, and I am one of the least techy people ever, and I use discord. I used to be in a history group, a book club, a ‘let’s moan about dating’ group, there’s all sorts on there.

What an utterly silly thing for your mate to say. I use Discord for two communities - one is a kitten rescue and the other a group of historical costuming fans. Quirky, sure, but very much not ‘creeps’. For larger groups it just has real advantages over WhatsApp. If you were my partner I’d worry about you being the strange one to have suspicions about something so intrinsically harmless.

No it wouldn't be a red flag to me. DH uses discord as he is into games and tech so most of his friends use that. He leaves it logged in when I use his laptop and messages pop up so I don't think he's up to anything particularly suspect on there.

Your mate is weird, there’s all sorts of communities from crafts to gaming discords etc I’m in lots for finding freelance work and I have a lot of real life friends on discord. It’s definitely not just for kids and creeps.

Do you put this much faith into any old shite your mate pours out of their mouth?

For anyone else, no, but this mate was the one who helped me figure out my ex was cheating while I was completely oblivious so it did give me pause.

Im 38 and I use discord more than WhatsApp.

I am neither a child nor a creep. Nor are the 4 friends I converse with on there regularly. We’re all just gamers in our 30s…

I’ve come across far more weirdos and creeps on FB, insta and WA than I have in discord!

Discord is really half way between WhatsApp and a forum - in fact, it's closer to Slack than anything, but you could think of it as a realtime forum and you wouldn't be far from the truth. I'm a member of a bunch of different servers (ie communities) - a couple of autism-related ones run by YouTubers, two chess servers run by streamers and a tech-related one which is mostly about high-end infrastructure and networking.

Put bluntly, your mate doesn't have a clue what they're talking about. Anyone who thinks Discord is for children and creeps is simply showing a vast lack of knowledge of Internet culture; it's no different to saying that gaming is for children.