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Work tokenism?

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Maybe2 · 12/01/2024 22:34

I am working with a management team that has an unwelcoming culture. For example, everyone outwardly states to contact them if you need support and how wellbeing is important etc. I’ve come to the conclusion that it is lip service, as the same people are rude, dismissive and standoffish. They constantly cause friction in the team, lots of aggressive emails, patronising comments, “calling people out”, swearing, outright gossiping in team meetings etc.

The problem is that I’m relatively senior in position so can’t outright keep a professional distance from these people as I won’t look like a team player. So I suppose the aibu is more what to do? I’m not senior enough where raising something would be taken seriously but also too senior to tell these people to leave me alone!

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Christmascarrots · 12/01/2024 22:38

Lead by example ?

DreadPirateRobots · 12/01/2024 22:43

If your seniors are any good at their jobs, they already know which of the people below them are problems.

Part of being senior is knowing how much capital you have to spend and choosing where to spend it. Pick your hills to die on with these people's behaviour and then die on them.

Maybe2 · 12/01/2024 22:49

Christmascarrots · 12/01/2024 22:38

Lead by example ?

It feels like reputational suicide because I’m going against the grain

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Christmascarrots · 12/01/2024 22:54

I think I’d be ok with not fitting in, compared to the other option. I wouldn’t compromise my own integrity for a job and would be actively looking elsewhere, if I was made to feel like an outsider for being a decent human being.

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