Ongoing issues with husband.
He has anger issues, mental health problems, stomps around complaining, muttering, swearing. When he’s happy we get on well.
Married over 20 years, but his negativity causes a lot of anxiety in the house. One of my daughters is particularly badly affected and I’m sure other kids are too in their own way. He’s also not verbally affectionate and doesn’t say he loves them or hugs them which makes them sad and he can be very moody. When you try to talk to him about it he plays the victim and says what a terrible person he is.
I’ve asked him to stay out in the cabin / office for a while as his anger came to ahead when he was having trouble with his phone. Daughter who rarely leaves her room said she wished she didn’t live here. I know I rarely see her as she avoids her dad which makes me a really sad.
I feel bad as I don’t want to make his mental health issues worse but I have to do something about the effect it has on our home. Feeling very guilty and torn. Please be gentle.