To call and ask DH to come home from work?

[WinterSick]

I'm looking after DC(1) at the moment who is at home with a fever, generally unwell and cannot be put down without hysterical crying. Every 5 minutes is asking for me to bf to feel better.
I've not felt right all morning, I've felt sick and cannot warm up. I had a nap with DC and since waking up I've been in the bathroom multiple times and it seems I've got D&V. I don't want to go into the graphics of it too much but I haven't been able to clean up missing the sink last time as DC has plodded in crying and desperate to be held. DC is also crying every time I'm sick.

DH is teaching today and I have no idea how I'm going to get through another 4/5 hours like this.

WIBU to ask if he can come home?

I agree with this and I think it's very unreasonable to expect your partner to come home from work unless it's a real matter of life or death. As someone else suggested, his headteacher may not allow him to go home anyway.

I would ask my partner in that situation

You can ask, he might not be able to though. Hopefully he can leave promptly after school though

I’ve been there sitting on the loo with a bucket on the floor and bf baby on my lap, it’s horrible, not nice being on your own but probably doable for a few hours as long as DH comes home after school. If you feel unsafe contact him or someone else who can help. Hope you feel better soon.

I wouldn't ask him to leave work early, but would text him to let him know you are both unwell and need him to take over when he gets in so you can rest.

I would message him to say come home ASAP meaning as soon as school ends , so don’t hang around for meetings etc . It’s literally a couple of hours and then you’ve got the weekend to recover .

How are you well enough to post on here but seemingly not well enough to take care of DC?

I would always ask but understand it might be a no or a not yet.

We had COVID in the house in the summer. It started with partner and daughter but I was ok and wfh. I could of tea and sympathy but the rest was down to partner. At 4pm my temperature started tracking upwards. The following day my partner WFH whilst me and daughter were ill in a roll reversal. He couldn't take more than a day off sick due to looming external deadlines so had to go back even though he was still feeling pretty awful.

My thoughts exactly. I had norovirus a couple of months back and couldn't physically look at a screen for a good 8 hours or so!

Hope you feel better soon though OP. It's tough looking after children at the same time, I sympathise with you.

Genuine question, as I am a teacher but not in UK, how can a head teacher “not allow him to go”?
Granted I’ve never left mid-teaching before, I’ve always informed my boss of any upcoming absences so that they can get cover - I don’t phrase it as a request. Plus teachers are so hard to get at the moment that is he really going to be fired for a genuine medical/safety issue if he leaves?

Back to OP, I think by the time you get a hold of DH, he sorts out if he can leave, arranges work for students, etc. it will almost be the end of the school day when he gets to you. If you genuinely can’t manage, call him. However, see if you can get by for a few more hours or contact a family member/friend who might be able to help out.