AIBU to be scared to self refer to EARLY HELP?

[DeciduousTrees]

Just that really, things have got worse at home, eldest son (11) becoming aggressive frequently, recently threats of knife usage, younger 2 kids fearful and now wanting to sleep with me nightly (context-single parent, father abroad- history of substance abuse & domestic violence)
I want to reach out for help but so fearful of kids being removed/suggestions to remove eldest from home, just feeling hopeless… am also fully able to recognize failures in my own parenting and don’t want damaged children growing up to be damaged fathers

I've been referred to early help and they were lovely. They are there to advocate for you and help so don't be worried.

What's the alternative though? You and your children clearly need support and you can't handle it alone. Removing children is the absolute last resort (not least due to lack of foster placements and funding).

Go for it, they really are there to help not take your kids off you

Having dealt with EH can I reassure you they only want a positive outcome for your family? They are a scarce resource, if you can get them, grab them with both hands!

I used to work in a role within Early Help, all the staff were lovely and really cared about their families.

They are family focused and work to support the whole family and good at knowing where to signpost for additional support.

They won't want to take your children away, they will want to work with you to make your lives easier and happier.