Hey hey I have been in my relationship for 2 years. My boyfriend and I only spend time together if he comes to my place bc he lives with his parents. When I try to set boundaries I end up feeling guilty. He wants to move my furniture, complain about my furniture stand on my furniture etc. He does the same things with my car as well. I've worked hard for all the things I have and in the drop of a hat he will s**t on it. I'm not ok with any of that and when I bring it up it's always some excuse.
I like having him over but I like my space the way it is. And when I tell him that his response is well how you know what you like if you don't do it. Now I've been in my apartment for a while and I've completely renovated every room with everything I like. He brings up the fact that he has ocd. But I have to ask him to do dishes if I cook or if I'm cleaning my bathroom he will stop me because "I don't wanna see you on your hands and knees cleaning" but doesn't do it himself.
I just feel like that's something he says bc if your ocd is so bad how can you see the bathroom or kitchen needs cleaning but not take that initiative to do it on his own. But will jump up to rearrange a room that was perfectly fine. At first I was ok with it then I started to voice my concerns and have them brushed off.