Swiped right by accident WWYD?

[Zeroperspective]

Out of curiosity what would you do if you accidentally swiped "like" on a profile on a dating app?

In an admittedly very judgemental way (and so as not to drip feed) the gentleman in question was unique looking and I suspect wouldn't be many peoples idea of attractive. He is not conventionally handsome and to be fair his profile information also wouldn't have had me swiping right, nothing weird just not my cup of tea so to speak. He has sent me a very polite, friendly and obviously personalised message.

A) explain nicely it was an accidental like and wish him well

B) exchange a few messages and then nicely explain you're looking for different things so as to let him down as gently as possible before wishing him well

I know there are other options such as to ignore, delete, block, send a nasty message but I would never do that.

YABU for option A

YANBU for option B

Definitely don't tell him you swiped right by accident; nobody wants to hear that!

Either do your option B or do as a pp said and invent a reason why you're no longer on the market and skip the few messages bit.

Don't bother messaging, I've got the odd "explanation" and they all come across patronising.

I'm sure none of them meant that, but still it's an assumption that I'm lesser .. who knows, if I talked to them it might be me saying "no thanks" not them & it might be me who had the lucky escape 🤷‍♂️

Option B. For all you know, he feels the same, that you’re not really his cup of tea but is polite enough not to say it outright.

Chat! Maybe it's fate!

When I was old and first started I felt guilty not replying to messages even when I had no interest in the person. However, that soon goes away once you have been doing it for while.
Just don't reply and unmatch. It's time consuming messaging people you are initially interested in without adding people you aren't into the mix. Unless you think there's a possibility you might start to become interested in him of course, then message away.

Just ignore.

I've never done online dating and even I know that ignoring the message is the best thing to do!

I know you said you don’t want to ignore him, but do you honestly think a few token messages before a sudden stop will make him feel any better? Leave it and he will just eventually twig that you weren’t that interested, or else assume you started dating someone else.

What would you like someone to do if they swiped right on you by accident? If you think he's probably not very experienced in OLD be kind.

Ignore / unmatch

I told some man in real-life that he wasn't my type. He was the flatmate of a friend. He said, "Well Midnight, your type hasn't been a great success so far, has it?" I had to admit he might have a point there given the last one had gone on holiday and married somebody else. We've been married 30 years and he is the love of my life. I made him get a decent haircut and throw out the polyester shirts though. There is something to be said fir a diamond in the rough.

If I only dated my type I would not be happily married for over 30 years now. You never know!

He may end up being the love of your life
So B

I actually posted this on behalf of a friend (with her permission and she's read it) as my advice was just ignore him. Anyway she went with option b and they've been chatting non stop ever since!

Well that is the loveliest thing I’ve heard for a while!

When are they meeting?

Posting mostly because I really want to get updates to hear how they get on!

Same here, super invested nnow