Useless ex who pays nothing for two dc - v low paid, largely through lifestyle choices, and CMS says the 4 nights per fortnight he has them is means he owes nothing else. Yet he buys them no clothes/nothing at all for his house except a toothbrush each. Just pays for the food they eat there and increasingly they are out with friends for some meals, funded by me, so he's not even paying that. He also cancels some nights fairly regularly.
He's meant to have them every Thursday but last week couldn't and has just texted that he can't tomorrow. I work f/t in stressful role and shop with the idea that they are not here Thursdays. I was planning a freezer raid for one for me but that won't work for 3 of us. It's so fucking annoying.
HE says he has to take his sister to hospital (she lives about 2 hours away). But he doesn't drive so won't be taking her as such. She has a long-term health condition so not an emergency. I'm pissed off and think it's bullshit.
I have said ok but it's annoying at this short notice. He has replied that he's very sorry but there's nothing he can do. But there is. He could: not lie if it's a lie; if it's true, he could have given more notice; he could put his children first and say he can't take her - he isn't driving her anyway; he could transfer me the money for a takeaway and could have actually said he's do that without being asked, especially since it's not two consecutive weeks.
AIBU? No. If something came up like that for me I could not just text him with the assumption he would step up but he can apparently.