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To wonder why he’s messaging me again

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Fluffycat97 · 10/01/2024 14:18

I spoke to a guy for quite some time but then he met somebody and they moved out and had a baby together. The baby is now 9 months old and him and his partner have had a falling out and his partner has moved out a couple of weeks ago. He is now trying to message me again. What would you do?

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Copperoliverbear · 10/01/2024 23:23

He's using you for sex.
Block

SouthEastCoast · 16/01/2024 05:39

ChangedCircumstances · 10/01/2024 17:12

They all do this when they get bored. It makes me laugh now to think I used to be so sad when I broke up with boyfriends that I may "never see or speak to them again!" considering that 20+ years on and 6 of them(married) message me regularly to try to increasingly very blatantly booty call. It's like clockwork. Sometimes I wonder if the seasons remind them about me somehow, or just that they see a post of mine on fb and feel I'm the one that got away. I've no interest at all, especially when they are married and think it's fine to do that behind their wives backs - lucky escape!

This so very much.
I remember crying over someone to a friend and she said “men always come back” and back then I found some comfort in that even though she also said “ if you want sex and only sex “
he did of course come back . As did many after him.
my best friend has a saying “men always come back to sex like rats come back to cheese” and j like to think of these desperate men like rats running to all that cheese out there.

Somepeoplearesnippy · 16/01/2024 05:42

He wants sex and/or a sofa to sleep on. Cocklodger alert.

laclochette · 16/01/2024 07:17

Because he's a twat. Block and delete. Could there honestly be a single other answer?!

TooMuchPinkyPonkJuice · 16/01/2024 07:20

The fact that you even have to ask is worrying. How low must your self esteem be to be hoovering up scraps from a pig who has just had a baby, had words with his partner and then runs off to the last sap that paid him attention?

WhatShallIDoToday · 16/01/2024 07:54

I can't believe you are even asking tbh.

You roll your eyes and block.

You don't feel flattered; you don't believe him; and you don't reply.

SouthEastCoast · 16/01/2024 14:36

TooMuchPinkyPonkJuice · 16/01/2024 07:20

The fact that you even have to ask is worrying. How low must your self esteem be to be hoovering up scraps from a pig who has just had a baby, had words with his partner and then runs off to the last sap that paid him attention?

Needlessly harsh. For those of us who are. Autistic it can be very hard to understand when people are not sincere.

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