moderationincludingmoderation ·
10/01/2024 08:03
LONG history of disagreements and fall
outs with our neighbour over their first dog barking in their garden when they let it out. (Reactive barking, not neglected).
We've given up expecting them to do anything about it/manage it, and after 12 years just endure it.
Thankfully, it never seemed to bark indoors, so we never heard it bark through the walls.
Now they have a second dog (now 18 months). This one barks indoors too.
We can hear it through the bedroom walls and it's disturbing our sleep. (Late night 11/11.30pm, early morning 6.30/7pm).
AIBU to bring this up too?
Back story for those that can be bothered:
12 years living next to each other on small terrace street in a city. Make good friends as soon as we move in & they get a dog the same year.
Dog is terrier with an incredibly deep and loud bark for a terrier.
They/dog fell into the habit of barking as soon as he's let into the garden.
This can be bursts of 10-30 barks, repeated, for up to 10-20 mins in the winter.
Constantly on and off in the summer with their bi fold doors open all day.
Sometimes as early at 6.30/7am, and as late as 11/11.30pm. Even later if they have friends over and are up late hosting.
Dog is reactive barking, not neglected. (Though clearly needs more walking IMO).
We mention/complain about the barking in a friendly way. Especially as our baby's bedroom window backs onto the gardens and it's disturbing their already terrible sleep.
Their reaction is not good and we fall out.
Several more incidents do to with noise, and building disagreements ensue over the years.
10 years on. We get dog of our own. They then get another dog, same breed as their original dog. They tell us they are hoping it will HELP their dog to bark less.... it does the the exact opposite and now we have a dog barking outside, and one barking inside.
Our dog is not a barker (we chose a less barky breed deliberately, and trained her as best as possible). If our dog does bark in the garden (v. Rare) we bring her in immediately and don't let it escalate.
They have 2 teenagers. They are a 'respectable' & professional family, on paper.
Other neighbours have complained too (2 houses down). But we seem to be the ones who bear the brunt.
Not aware if their neighbours on the other side have ever complained properly. They are freindly though. And those neighbours are very quiet and keep themselves to themselves, I get the impression they do not like confrontation.