To question the grandparents over sickness...

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So my MIL has my 1 year old twice a week for me to work. My eldest is in school and she takes and picks him up too and drops him to us straight after the school run so my husband finishes working from home at 4, (I work until 6 out of home).
They also have their other grandchildren living with them half of the week with my DH's brother, as he lives there too since his split with their mum. They're in their tweens.
I got a phone call tonight asking if my kids wanted to go back down theirs for tea after the school run tomorrow, as they'll have the other grandchildren there too. Although one of them has norovirus and was sent home from school ill today and has been feeling unwell since Sunday.

Would you avoid it because you know one of the kids has norovirus? And has recently been ill? I feel unreasonable asking details of when they were ill and then declining the invite because I know I'll be seen as finicky.

But truth be told, I have an exam next week I really don't want to be ill for or have to spend the run up to it looking after my poorly kids instead of revising.

I'm still sending my kids to school etc but I feel it's different than actually sending them to a house you know someone is sick in, and probably won't stay in their room.

That also brings the question of whether I send my youngest there tomorrow too, because he's just finished a round of antibiotics and has been poorly. So I don't really want him catching a sick bug straight off the back of it as his tummy's still upset from the medication.

I know I'll be seen as the difficult one. And my husband is quite keen they don't go but won't speak to them about it (even though they're his parents).

I'm torn. I don't want to make a big deal but I also feel if you KNOW they're ill surely you avoid them?

I wouldn’t. My nephews had a mild sickness bug, (only sick a couple of times) perked up within 24 hours. We spent time with them. DD caught and was vomiting all night bless her. Often these things can’t be avoided but you’ve had fair warning, I’d avoid, especially with your exam!

I would say no to the invite for dinner and would also reconsider plans for the youngest one tomorrow. I’ve had norovirus 3 times in the last year because of how contagious it is, especially amongst children. I’ve also noticed how quickly my child recovers from It yet dh and I take almost a week to actually feel better.

The grandparents might feel okay- ish now but may be feeling unwell by tomorrow.

We're grandparents with little kids. There's an agreement in our family that we don't share bugs amongst us. Norovirus top of the list

We have a very small downstairs bathroom, the only time I have been grateful for it was in 2004 (Tsunami, so I remember) I was on the downstairs toilet, both ends were busy I was so grateful that the sink was close enough to be sick in whilst the other end was busy.

Twenty years later I can remember the chills and the sweats.

Avoid, Avoid at all costs.

God no, don’t put your kids through norovirus because you’re afraid of what the in laws will say if you say no. It’s a horrible virus