Birthday gift etiquette

[PeloMom]

We are invited to a shared birthday party for 2 siblings. Older one is in my LO’s class, we’ve seen the younger one at other birthdays/ gatherings but not really close to the family and my LO and younger don’t play together (much much younger).
AIBU to only bring gift for the older one?

Was the invite just from the older child or both? My DDs have been invited to joint parties but has always been separate invites so one child invited their class and the sibling invited theirs, so in that case just one gift is fine. Have only done 2 gifts when it's been from twins both in DDs class

Is your youngest invited to the party and attending or has just the oldest been invited? I would buy a gift for the child that invited your oldest and then a token gift for their younger sibling

@MamPadi the school sent the invite to all parents as the kids are at the same school so both kids are on the invite. The invite is from ‘the family’

I would do gift only for child you know

@Coconutter24 only my older one. I was thinking in those lines- something small for the younger sibling. Thank you!

A gift for the older child and a small token gift for the younger one.

As with twins, has anyone ever received two gifts? I have seen twins bring one but its twice the cost for the host.

Get a nice book from a second hand shop (or your own bookshelf) if you don't want to splash out on the child you don't know so well, but I would still take a card and present for each child (especially as you have 2 children going to the party).

@SandyWaves I have twins. At their first ever bday party every single person brought them a present each (totally unexpected), and now I feel obliged to buy a present from each of them every time they attend a party. This year I am planning to say no need to bring presents!

@PeloMom if both of your children are attending, I would take a gift each. If it’s just the older one, just take a gift for the friend they know.

One gift - obviously for the child that your child is friends with.

The fact the parents are effectively holding two parties at once isn't a reason to get the sibling a present.
If the parties were on different days, you wouldn't get the sibling a present, you'd only get one for the child who is inviting your child.

I've always bought something very small for the 'not friend' (plus a card) when we've received a shared invite. Something along the lines of a pack of sweets, sticker book, pretty colouring pencils etc.