To be annoyed relatives posting photos of my child without permission

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Sorry in advance for the long post!! dh’s mom keeps posting photos of my two year old on her public TikTok without my permission. I have had stood by the same rule from the day my son was born that no one was to post photos of him on any social media (for obvious safety concerns), even myself and DH don’t post our son online. Everyone els has respected our decision and followed as we asked, except DHs mom.
DH came across a slideshow his mother had posted on tiktok, all photos of our son that she had been sent privately over WhatsApp or pictures she had taken herself during visits, DH politely private messaged her asking if she could take down the videos/photos as it still stands we don’t want him on social media at such a young age, she completely downplayed our concern and mocked us for being ‘paranoid and overly sensitive’ as it’s ’just a few photos’.
its been 6 days and not only has she not removed the current videos/photos, she has now posted another slideshow of photos of him after already telling her we still weren’t okay with that. she has a fair few thousand followers (she has a lot of other content).
Iv used the report option on the videos already several times but they haven’t been removed and DH’s mom still refuses to take them down herself.
can anyone shed any advice on how els to get the videos removed and how to handle this with DH’s mom?

Don't send pictures of DC on WhatsApp to her or anyone who will forward them to her.

Don't allow her to take pictures of DC.

If she still does and continues to post then stop contact. If she wants likes more than she wants to be a part of DC life then cut contact.

YANBU I would not be happy.

Not it is not your decision, unless you have parental responsibility for him.

No, it's not your decision. Kids are entitled to their privacy too.

Might be your grandson but it is not your child for goodness sake and you have absolutely no right to do so without permission, it is not your decision. Jeez. 😤🤨

Well how will that help? She will still post the pictures but OP won't know about it. Stopping contact is the only solution here. She sounds like a shit grandparent who is completely selfish and cares about a few likes more than her grandson. So no great loss.

I wouldn’t allow her to see your child again until she takes the photos off social media. She gets to decide which is more important to her - actually seeing her grandson or using his images for attention.

Pretty rude of her to ignore your request to take down, no matter what her views are on your decision whether or not to post photos of your child online. I personally wouldn’t be stopping contact though for this, but I would be asking your husband to have a proper chat with her and tell her that you’re both really upset she’s ignored your requests to take it down and you won’t be sharing any further photos with her. Yes she could take some still but I’d hope she will respect your decision once your husbands told her a few home truths about the dark web.

I post photos of my children and have since they were little, but my brother and SIL have never posted a photo of their child online, or made reference to him, so I respect that and never make reference to him either and certainly wouldn’t share a photo. And parents have never asked me not to, I just follow their example (not big social media users anyway so perhaps why)

Then she gets no more photos or contact with you or your child. Your Dh really does need to go crazy on her.

We showed a relative with a similar approach a photo I had uploaded of a random farm market. Google kept sending me notifications showing how many people had seen the photo, it was over million within two months.

Unfortunately they refused and had rights!. So we never let them take a picture nor share pictures with them. If they dare take a sly pic then then won't have access to the child.

Make a slideshow of all the most unflattering pictured of mil and start posting them across every platform you have...