Sorry reposting this as I think I inadvertently deleted my previous post.
My parents got a divorce when I was 8 months old. My dad moved to another city when I was 3 years old, and my mum when I was 5, leaving me with my abusive nan.
I don't talk to my dad. My mum was promoted when she moved away and made a good career. Bought a few properties. Her narrative was always 'I had to leave my daughter, but secured her future this way'.
Recently she retired and started travelling the world. She put up one of her properties on sale in May. The narrative now changed to 'These are my houses. I can do whatever I want with them'. Although I felt like me growing up motherless lost any silver lining whatsoever, I supported her decision. I do have a good career and never relied on her anyway.
In November we had an unrelated argument. Whenever I spoke about my problems, she goes 'It's not important. Just don't worry about it'. Similar time my therapist issued a report about me that read as 'She has made progress in challenging the cognitions that sustained negative thoughts and self-criticism but it is evident the source of this is a childhood marked by neglect and abuse'. I was just done with her.
Fast forward to holidays, I visit my hometown and she's there. Doesn't even bother greeting me, she is in a very standoffish foul mood. I try to stay positive and interact with other relatives.
The night just before I travel back, she confronts me in front of everyone. She goes 'Anawana is upset that I'm selling the houses. I won't speak with her until she makes peace with this and stops being angry with me for the past.' I was quite baffled and stated that me stopping to talk to her had nothing to do with finances, it was the lack of emotional support.
Now my family turned on me. I received messages siding with her after I got back home yesterday. No one believes that I'm after her money but her accusation clearly clouded their judgement. I feel like this is how she climbed up corporate ladders before and she's using it to turn everyone against me now. She also messaged my boyfriend today asking how he was, whilst completely ignoring me. I'm guessing just to hurt me.
I do love the rest of family but don't want them interjecting themselves into something that has nothing to do with them. I'm open for a relationship with my mum if she takes accountability once in her life and changes her behaviour. I feel like my family is blind to everything I've been through, despite witnessing it first hand. Perhaps guilt? AIBU?