Will never be well enough for a relationship

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

Mental health has suffered on and off for most of my teenage years and adult life. Have tried 9 different antidepressants, multiple counsellors both NHS and private over 15 years who between them have tried 6 different types of therapy/psychotherapy. I eat well, exercise regularly and have tried all the podcasts/mindfullness/breathing exercises etc that I can find. I'm never without anxiety or depression for a sustained amount of time. I wonder if its time to just accept I won't get marriage and children and a cosy family life like most people do.

Plenty of people with depression are in loving relationships. I am not sure anxiety and depression is relevant. I think self-limiting beliefs are more of a problem.

How do you overcome self limiting behaviours though? I've had loads of counselling including CBT and DBT to change midset and thought patterns and I'm still like this. I also regularly read self help books designed to help people like me change and they don't work for me.

Reading and attending counselling isn’t enough though. You actually need to practice the techniques daily. CBT has exercises that challenge your thought patterns so why not pull them out and see what you can make of the thought that you can’t have a relationship due to depression. See what lies at the root of it and check for any unhelpful thinking patterns, mind reading etc.
Then go on dates.