‘The kids will miss you’ how would you interpret this?

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Just that really if you were going away for a couple of days and your partner says ‘the kids are going to miss you’ would that sound abit unnerving? Is their aim to make me feel guilty about going?

How on earth could you interpret something so innocuous as disgusting?

DP once said he'd miss me when I took on a commission that involved going overseas for longer than I usually do. It was him being honest and I thought it was sweet. He wasn't trying to guilt-trip me and waved me off happily.

I think I'd prefer it to "the kids literally won't miss you a bit" tbh.

Good lord!! What on earth is going on in your life that you went straight to 'DISGUSTING' to suggest OP's kids will miss her?! LOL

My dh is always very pro me getting away for nights or weekends and would never say this to me. He only ever speaks about my trips in an "are you excited" kind of way. When I leave for it he might say "we will miss you" because its true, but he always adds "have an amazing time" or something else on.

Saying it then, out of context too, reads from here like he is trying to make you feel bad for doing something for yourself.

Disgusting thing to say

Congratulations, you win the award for the most bonkers overreaction to a harmless factual observation.

'The kids are going to miss you' doesn't imply that the kids will be harmed or traumatised.

It's totally fucking normal for children to miss their parents when they go away. It would be a lot more weird if they didn't give a shit whether their mum/dad was there or not. I used to have a nice time staying with my grandparents when my parents went away for the occasional weekend when I was little, but I still missed them in the sense that I was glad when they came back.

I think most mothers would be pretty gutted if their child was entirely indifferent about their presence.

Sounds like a normal comment, if I'm going somewhere DH will say kids / cat will miss you... its not done in a horrible way it is meant that I'm the glue to the family.