To feel like it’s too late

[Whistledownthewindow]

I know that realistically I’m not old or too old, but I feel as though my childbearing years have passed me by.

I really wanted to have another baby and had been trying for 5 years with my now exdp, we have one Dd 13 and I recently found out he had a second family, with a much younger woman who he has one 3 year old with and is pregnant again.

It has broken me knowing that it was likely me not being able to have anymore children not him.
I also know that it is going to be very unlikely that I am going to meet a new man and have a child before I’m 40 and I’m not sure how I’m going to cope.
It is tearing me apart.

Go to the doctors get a fertility test and maybe you can get donated sperm from a clinic . Is it the baby you want more than the relationship ?

I wouldn’t want to do it alone so sperm donation is out of the question.

I have already had fertility tests, I have endometriosis but ovulate every month and have healthy follicles, yet nothing each month

It was absolutely not you, it was exDP being an absolute dick and worthless human being! Glad he is an ex, OP.

As to having another child, there are loads of options.....sperm donation, surrogates, fostering, adoption. I see above that you don't want to do it alone but why?

I wouldn’t want to do it alone, because I know realistically it’s going to be hard bloody work.

I have some savings, but that would dry up within a year my earring potential would drastically decrease and the life myself and Dd have wouldn’t be great. I’m stable enough to be able to enjoy the good things in life, so I don’t want to have to have a year at least off of work and then be struggling.