8yr son telling us he wants to kill us

[Scottishdreams1991]

My ds8 has asd with limited speech and understanding.

Whenever he is told no or asked to do something he doesn't want to do he will say im going to kill you. He doesn't discriminate so will say it to anyone .
We were in a taxi today and the driver went a slightly different way ( bad traffic) so ds starts telling him im going to kill you over and over again. Taxi driver was understanding and saw the funny side thankfully. We have quite alot of professional people involved due to his disability and i have reached out for help but it's seen as almost normal thing for him to say in that world if that makes sense.

Thankfully most people have been understanding but he will tell small children he wants to kill them which is awful.
I don't know what to do or how to stop it as its seen as normal for him and to the professionals involved.

aibu to think this isn't normal asd or not?

I work 1:1 as a TA. Lad I used to work with was always telling me he was going to kill me, and how. Not in an angry way, he just thought it was funny. And not just me, anyone that he ‘liked’. All the advisors could not explain why he did it but he eventually just stopped saying it.

If the professionals have said its within the realm of normal I'd be inclined to agree.

With limited speech/understanding it sounds like it's just his way of expressing frustration, without fully understanding the implication of what he is saying.

My son is ASD with moderate LD. He's an adult now. He's had lots of phases of saying/doing things that we don't like. We work on it until it stops.
I would do whatever you can to discourage your son from saying this. It's frustrating that professionals are normalising your son saying that. The most important thing to remember with anything like this, is they can still learn. He can be taught that this is a bad thing to say. You'll hopefully know what strategies to use for him. You are his first and most important teacher, you've taught him so much already. You can get him out of saying this and you should, despite the professionals saying its normal. It's not.

Normally we say no thank you ds name which has eventually worked in the past for other thing. We are trying our best using socal story's and giving him the tools to express his dislike/frustration with other words or actions. He at times will put his thumb down now so a little victory

Please seek a psychiatrist

@Abbimae 🤣

@Scottishdreams1991 You'll get there. You know he doesn't actually want to kill you. Keep going, it'll pass. I used to have to cut my DS hair myself because he couldn't tolerate the barbers (he loves it now) and the things he used to say that he'd like to do with the scissors, would make anyone flinch! He'd always cry and apologise afterwards though. It stopped eventually. This will be a distant memory for you too soon enough. Keep going 💐

@Scottishdreams1991 my son is similar.. I tend not to make lt a thing . It will eventually pass. My son has asd and learning difficulties. He does not truly know what lt means.

My sister is an assistant for children with ASD of a similar age and she says this is extremely common and she’s been sent more death threats by children than she can count! With the look of rage in their eyes. She says it will pass. They will grow out of it and some of the children have speech & language therapy to help this process 😌

she said to relax, it’s very normal and it will pass