How do I meet men??

[Inthebleakmidwinter764]

I'm 31, single 4 years. Work in an almost completely female based industry and men who work there are married and much older. Very rarely get someone new employed and never someone male, straight and around my age. Am on one dating app and have had a couple of dates but nothings happened from them. At my wits end a bit.

Accept every invitation you receive. Other women have brothers, male friends, their husbands/boyfriends have mates.
Make friends with new people for the same reasons.
Join a social/hobby group, evening class, political party etc.
Don't be disheartened by only a couple of dates from one OLD site either. Keep at it, you have to kiss a lot of frogs...

There’s no real magic trick to it sadly! Meeting someone is luck.. be that at work, on a plane, a friend of a friend…

however you could look at taking up some new hobbies where there are big groups of people? No guarantee that there will a) be single men there or b) any single men you take a liking to, but you can try!

do you have friends with partners who have single male friends? Set up social nights with them as group eg dinners/drinks etc?

dating apps are dispiriting and they are a numbers game but plenty of people have met their other halves on there (plenty also have no, though!)

The best advice I can give is to go out to bars, pubs, social places or take up a hobby. It's the best way to meet people. You could also try speed dating?? You could go with a friend if you have any single ones. It's a great laugh.

Start doing a sport that you'd genuinely enjoy that also traditionally attracts men - join a cycling club or go to a climbing wall, running club or tennis club.

Join an evening class that is likely to attract men as well as women - life drawing, comic improv, learning a language etc. I'm often surprised that there are a fair few men at dance classes - not trad ballet or zumba but ceroc/jive/lindyhop. Even at five rhythms dance there were some nice men. I was very surprised. A friend of mine met her husband at a Scottish country dancing club. He is very cool and handsome and has a good job, he just happened to have a secret love of country dancing and so did she!

Choirs, orchestras, am dram, re-enactment groups all attract men as well as women.

Start following a local band whose music you genuinely like. Go with a mate a few times but get chatting to any male fans and get chatting abotu going to some gigs as a group.

Tell your mates you are looking. Ask if they have brothers, old school friends etc who you might get on with. I met DH through a mate.

What are your hobbies? What do you like to do?

Sports? Gym? Park run? Classes such as karate. Clay pigeon shooting? Rowing? Try something new. Have some fun.

Music, AmDram, Choir, Cooking school seems to work for one of my friends.

Thanks everyone. I'm not sporty at all and find coordination tricky at times, I go to the gym and do classes only but one class is all women apart from 2 men and I don't fancy either and not sure if either are single and the other one is spinning and there doesn't really seem to be the opportunity to talk. I have thought about a climbing wall activity.