Mess around the house

[Thesportsman2024]

I am messy at home and my partner caught me stuffing my clothes in draws all muddled up and not ironed when I promised I would do it properly.

She caught me out and I cheekily said perhaps you can do it all as you’re better at it. She was not impressed and decided I should do online classes focusing on decluttering so I improve and they have to be done early at the weekend so I miss my lay in as my comment was cheeky. Hoping perhaps lots of no votes to the classes on this would help my cause lol

Caught you?

You can put your clothes in drawers however you like 🤷‍♀️

A spelling course wouldn’t go amiss either

Your DRAWERS, your choice 🤷🏽‍♀️

This is so childish. Classes won't help you be tidy. Bizarre dynamic with your partner.

The last sentence lost me.

She sounds like your mum, not your partner.

There is a dynamic lots of couples fall into - one is messy and lazy, the other has to do all the work or nag all the time. It becomes a parent and child relationship instead of one of equals. Is this you?

Your relationship could be in an even worse state because she’s reached the point where she thinks you need her to enforce consequences.

it is, of course, up to you whether you stuff your clothes into drawers any old how, but are you also messy in ways that affects her? If so you need to recognise she won’t fancy you, you’ll start giving her the ick and eventually you’ll break up.

I'm crap at folding my clothes, my DH knows it, but if he dared to tell me to fold them and take an online course on how to be less messy then he'd be sleeping in the dog cage or the shed!

How under the thumb are you!?!?!?

Are you allowed outside on your own?

Is the clothes in drawers just the tip of the iceberg? Do you just leave piles of things round the house and expect your partner to pick up everything? Or else live in mess?
My DH has a messy wardrobe and drawers. There was a time I cared. Not anymore, of he can't keep his drawers and wardrobe tidy it's on him. He makes an effort around the rest of the house though, that's the difference.

Omg if I had a partner telling me how to put clothes in drawers and putting me on declutter course, I'd leave them. I will put my clothes into drawers how I like!!! And equally I wouldn't be on any partner either, his drawers up to him how he has his clothes in them!!

Nah, you put your clothes away however you like. Once they're hidden in a drawer, there's no reason for them to bother your partner at all.

Your drawers and clothes. If you end up coming to crumpled clothes cos they have been shoved in then thats your problem.

I wouldnt do the classes either.

Are you a slob?
Does your partner wash and iron them then you scrunch and throw them in with no respect for the effort they put in?