Nightmare boss

[Sunshinemomma3]

Can anyone offer me any advice on how to deal with this situation?

I have been in a new job for 6 months and a new CEO has come in.

I am a member of the leadership team under him but I'm not line managed by him.

I feel targeted and picked on. This came to a head last week when he pulled me into his office to tell me my heels were too clippy on the floor. He suggested I tip toe into meeting and proceeded to demonstrate. He asked me to copy him.

I obviously didn't move a muscle but nodded and tried to agree but he kept talking about it repeating the movement across the office and the advice for another 3 minutes or so. I was trapped in groundhog advice with a man telling me how to walk in heels.

Later on, in a team meeting with my colleagues, he told a story about a project he had asked me to work on and how laughable my response had been.

I am the only woman on the leadership team except CEO's PA.

I loved my job to begin with but I feel like I'm in an emotionally abusive situation and I feel beyond anxious to go in on Monday wondering what he'll say or do.

These aren't the first instances of him behaving in this way, just the latest and the straw that's breaking the camel's back.

Please tell me if I'm being a 'snowflake' and what you would do in my position.

I should be enjoying my time with my children but I'm sat here panicking about tomorrow.

AIBU?

Who is your line manager? Could you speak to them first of all?

That's outrageous, Op. Is there a HR department you can approach? Sounds very much like sex discrimination to me.

Personally I'd be looking for another job. Sounds delightfully sexist.

You feel targeted and picked on because you are. This is harassment,and it's gender based. I suggest you consult a solicitor about the best way to proceed.

The first thing would be to approach HR as this man is exposing the organisation to a lawsuit and they will want to shut it down. I know this is obvious but HR protects the org not you. I mistakenly trusted my HR dept in an issue and I ended up screwed over.

If you can't face going in tomorrow then don't. Find a good solicitor for a chat. I can recommend one if you DM me.

Alternatively go in and talk to HR ASAP. Keep a note of all incidents with dates and times.

You don't have to put up with this shit. You have options. You can stay and address this, you can take time off for stress, you can leave and claim constructive dismissal.

Good luck