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Toxic Workplace?

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Willowswood · 06/01/2024 10:15

Hi,

I think my workplace is toxic and I hate it. I don't want to identify it incase anyone from there is in here, but it's a medium sized team, mix of male and female but mostly female.

I've worked in loads of different places and industries, and this feels like the most toxic place I've ever worked. All people seem to do is bitch about each other behind their backs and I'm sick of it, what can I do apart from ignore it? Why can't everyone just be kind? Is it that difficult?

Eg there was the work Christmas gathering, it was in the pub and then on to other activities. I didn't go as I was unwell, but a colleague said to me yesterday that they were all bitching about different people on the team, and then they moved on to this guy who hasn't worked with us for long, slagging him off about various different things, then he turned up at the pub with them!! They knew he was coming but they thought they would chat sh1t about him first?!

It makes me feel really paranoid about what they are saying about me, and I hate it. Are all workplaces this bad?

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Notimeforaname · 06/01/2024 10:18

Every place I have ever worked, someone has bitched about someone else. Its human nature.

We cant control what people say about us when we are not there so it is completely useless and a waste of time to worry or think about it.

Notimeforaname · 06/01/2024 10:20

Sittin on the bus last week there was a group of 20 something friends, 4 or 5 of them. All having a great time, talking, laughing, joking.

One got off before the rest of them. They all spoke and joked about that friend almost as soon as they got off the bus. It happens..

Mintearo7 · 06/01/2024 10:27

I disagree it doesn’t just happen although nowhere is perfect. It’s because of bad culture filtering down from the top. If you have other options I would explore. Also, I find working from home (if that is possible) removes yourself from all that rubbish somewhat.

Coffeespill · 06/01/2024 10:44

Not sure what the sex of the team has to do with it but no not all teams are like this. Just take yourself home and keep socialising to a minimum. They will be moaning about you if they are moaning about other people.

Coffeespill · 06/01/2024 10:47

And to some extent checking in with your colleagues that you aren't the only one who finds what one person does annoying isn't inherently a bad thing to do. It's just the extent of it, the way it is done and if you're genuinely thinking..its it just me or am I being unreasonable. A little like a RL mumsnet

Princesspollyyy · 06/01/2024 10:49

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Coffeespill · 06/01/2024 10:52

It doesn't make a difference.

Willowswood · 06/01/2024 10:53

Coffeespill · 06/01/2024 10:52

It doesn't make a difference.

Ok that's good to know

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