To want a meme about why a mum's house is always messy

[pettywife]

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I know it's petty but I need to find this meme or insta post that I saw once. It's essentially saying that if you're coming home to a messy house it's because your wife has been busy looking after kids all day.

My husband has been making digs at me that he comes home and the living room / play space is untidy with toys everywhere etc. He's calling me messy but the truth is, I'm looking after his (and mine) kids whilst also trying to cook dinner, sometimes trying to just pee in peace etc.

Jesus, he really wants to have his cake and eat it too doesn't he??

He gets a SAHM (which enables him to focus on his career and life) PLUS you contribute half financially, so he's not even the breadwinner AND you pay for a housekeeper, so the house is clean. He NEVER has to clean, or do a bed time with the kids, but he's still unhappy and wants you to pick up every toy that ever gets played with the second the child is finished with it 🙄

Does he not realise how good he's got it??

If he wants the traditional household, tell him fine, you'll pick up every toy, but you'll also stop contributing financially as his role is to provide for the family and he's not doing it properly. See how quickly he changes his tube then.

He doesn't understand the reality because he doesn't spend enough time being alone with them. A meme is not going to make him understand this. More time alone with them might (and might make bed times easier too).

I wouldn't be putting up with this!

Well he seems to have this parenting thing all figured out, so he should be fine with you going away for a weekend and leaving him to it?

Not all heroes wear capes 💪

You shouldn't need a meme. Simply bugger off by yourself for the day, leave them to it and come home at 6.30pm.

Seriously ? Lets just suck the joy and creativity out of children's play.

Is he a bit thick? I’m childfree, there’s not many in my family younger than me so I didn’t grow up around children and I don’t spend much time around children at all and I don’t know any stay at home parents. I could write a general list of what a stay at home parent might have to deal with daily/weekly/monthly/annually depending on the ages/stages/amount of children and why the house might be a bit ‘messy’. He actually has children and knows at least one stay at home mum very well, he well aware of the size/type of house you like in the ages/stages/personalities of the kids and he still has no idea why there’s some mess?

Also you pay at least half of household expenses and up to 100% of some of them and he’s still not happy. Bloody hell. Ask him what colour stick he’d like the moon on.

Yes but it is what she wants and what she is asking for??

A man came home from work and found his three children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around the garden. The door of his wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and no sign of the dog, walking in the door; he found an even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over; the throw rug was against one wall. In the front room the TV was on loudly with the cartoon channel, the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.
He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls. As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel… She looked up at him, smiled and asked how his day went. He looked at her bewildered and asked, ‘What happened here today?’ She again smiled and answered, “You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?” ”Yes,” was his incredulous reply. She answered, ‘Well, today I didn’t do it.’

I think what would be more effective would be going out alone for the day, while your dick husband looks after the kids, makes all the meals and keeps the house tidy.

I pay for a housekeeper to clean the house 4 days a week but she leaves at 2pm having done actual cleaning but of course kids will still make a mess after 2pm, not dirt, just toys everywhere, maybe shoes out of the cupboard etc).

I mean - fair play to you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

But… if he’s the kind of guy to need a meme to “get it”, surely he’s anyway just going to roll his eyes at the meme and think, “yeah - that’s for the SAHMs who aren’t only dealing with mess after 2pm”?

People are just different.
I leave stuff everywhere. Honestly, it’s partly laziness. Mostly I just don’t care.

My husband tidies as he goes. Not in any kind of judgmental way, he’s not obsessive or a neat freak. He just does it.
I do muse that I’d like to be like him… but I’m not going to change.
No meme will ever make him understand why I can walk past shoes abandoned in the hallway, and he would always pick them up.

We don’t argue about it - we just accept we’re different and any meme would describe us, but not explain us.

This is one we share sometimes… yeah, I’m B 😆 We laugh about it, but it will never make him actually understand why my car is always running on fumes!

Irrelevant to the issue at hand

Nah you should be engaging with your kids

Someone sent me this when my oldest was little. It helped me, especially as I was my own worst critic,