What's reasonable re neighbours noise?

[Lorelaigilmore88]

Live in a terraced house, never heard anything from old neighbours so was very fortunate for several years.

New neighbours moved in 6 months ago. Young couple now with a baby. Pleasant enough, exchange hellos on the street, they've put my bin out when I went on holiday and I hadn't asked them too which was nice...
They are fairly quiet but louder than the old neighbours, playing music, baby crying occasionally, tv noise... I am generally not bothered by this, my view is daytime noise is fine and to be expected in a terrace. My two can be noisy on occasion - but my household noise stops at 8pm. This is when my children go down and after that my house is quiet.

But approx once a month, always on a Friday night, the neighbours seem to throw a party with friends until about 4am. Its going on right now. I currently feel like I am connected to a rowdy pub. Right now they are tunelessly screaming along to Amy Winehouse. The music is so loud I am amazed my two are still asleep.
I am more than happy to go around and tell them to turn it off, which i think they would. But I didn't because I thought, is them doing this once a month unreasonable? This is their first house, I remember throwing parties when I first moved out...

But at the same time, I am sat here awake getting miffed thinking about my alarm going off at 7am and getting the kids to sports clubs tomorrow first thing.
What do other people accept re noise on a infrequent basis at the weekend?
Also they are now singing beautiful liar, Beyonce and it is painful.

Once a month, til 4 is excessive
Once a month til midnight I'd tolerate.

I agree or 1-2am at the latest. Come summer you've got people mowing lawns early, so even if you didn't have clubs, you'd be woken up.

I agree with pp, midnight non ideal for you but not overall unreasonable but regular 4am loud parties def not ok. Hope it stops soon and have a quiet/nice word with them as other than this they sound nice and good neighbours are worth their weight in gold.

Just been round because I am exhausted... I was polite, a friend of the couple answered, said the couple are asleep (how I have no idea since I'm next door and can't) she apologied for the noise and turned it off. I have just got back into bed and its back on the same volume.
My alarm will be going off at 7am and the petty person in me thinks it would be a good idea to play my own booming music. I won't though.
But I am disappointed its back on. I hope this doesn't mean they aren't as reasonable as I thought they would be.

I'd just call the noise nuisance team at your local council. They send someone out to check it out and will talk to them. A person of relative authority might make them think twice.

I wouldn't retaliate and get in a battle with them.

I'd go around again and tell the "friends", their actions have now got the neighbours reported for noise nuisance and you have a recording as evidence (and I would record it).

I'd probably follow it up with a letter to the neighbours to say that any further nuisance and you will keep reporting them.

You are far too nice OP! That’s not acceptable at all, once a year maybe (with warning). They live in a terraced house so should be being respectful of neighbours. Also if they have a baby it’s pretty concerning.

I would go and speak to them in the day, talk about your children and how it’s keeping them up (even if it’s not). I would also put in a noise complaint with the council each time.

Hope you got a bit of sleep x

I'd tolerate once a month til 10. And probably never til 4am, although could probably manage a one-off. Total selfish assholes. I find with parties its less the music rather than the drunk people that is annoying

OP I had this on Hogmanay with my neighbours who have four DC. How do they stay up til 4am?!?

They have parties occasionally but not as often as yours. The previous family who owned the house were worse (sex noises all through the night too). Loud enough you couldn't sleep.

I agree it is just not on. The problem is as my DH says it's perfectly normal for people to throw a party at weekends, they aren't committing a crime. He said his parents used to entertain years ago and it could get quite loud🤷🏻

I don't agree with his view. I didn't grow up in a house like that. My family was quiet.

Can you try earplugs?

I thought that you couldn’t make noise between 11pm and 7am ?

I don’t personally think parties are ever reasonable unless they give you warning in advance and it’s a one off. Having regular parties in a house with adjoining neighbours until the early hours isn’t a reasonable thing to do. Strange they’re doing this when they have a small baby too, I’d be concerned about this personally.

I did this with my previous neighbours. Didn't work. They eventually moved house because I kept hounding the LA noise pollution team and also playing extremely loud music as soon as they went quiet each morning around 5am (just as they drifted off to sleep). We are a family up at 6am daily regardless of the day of week. If you can imagine what that's like day in day out. It was torture and I am still traumatised by what I went through.

Hope OP gets LA involved next. You have to try all approaches. I was over the moon when they sold up and moved away.

The small baby could be staying with grandparents for the night. I would try to talk to the neighbours during the day sometime and outline that you don't want to fall out but if needed you will report them.

If you knew when they were going to be on is there anywhere you could decamp to occasionally? I am thinking a few nights a year as a compromise not every month.

The family we have next door were up til 4am with four dc children ranging from 2yo to 11yo on Hogmanay. Very loud. I felt sorry for the DC, especially the youngest who was whining. Parents were obviously having a great time bringing in the new year so that's all that matters 🙄

I think the problem with parties is not knowing when it's going to happen and causes a state of anxiety. You end up jumpy. It's horrible.

NYE is a bit different though surely- it's once a year and the whole point is that you're up at midnight!
But one a month would drive me bananas too op- sorry.

I would definitely go around later today and say something. You can be polite. If things don’t change then report them.

Go round today and speak to them about it. Once a month parties is reasonable but not noise that late. Arguably you getting up 7am at the weekend and getting ready to go out is not much better!

Arguably you getting up 7am at the weekend and getting ready to go out is not much better!

That's perfectly normal behaviour.

Regular parties isn't.

You need to go round today, speak to the neighbours and tell them politely it's unacceptable.

Their 'friend' was completely out of order, turning it off but then a few minutes later, turning the music back up again.

Have a word with them.
Its not on that they are going to bed and leaving their friend to annoy the neighbours, I would’ve livid!

Get the porcelain tile cutter out and start that up outside your back door next time they are sleeping off one of their parties.

I would imagine the baby stays with grandparents once a month and they have a drink and friends and music once a month.
I'd go and knock later today and just say 4am is too late and they will need to change this little set up for next month

Leave an annoying song like Venga Boys on full blast on repeat whilst you go out to sports club.

Yes, this. We had neighbours like this for a while and we were basically on edge the whole time.