So long story short, I have an autistic child who really struggles over the school holidays - Christmas was a hell hole of a time - screaming all day long, didn’t really enjoy any of it and hardly did anything over Christmas because of his behaviour. His behaviour still hasn’t settled down since then and everyday after school is just a nightmare tbh. I’m a single parent and dad has no involvement due to court orders for safeguarding and some days I’m genuinely at the end of my tether trying to deal with it all.
So I was really unorganised over Christmas with gifts and cards etc, then I was unwell over New Years. I was under the impression that I didn’t have to get my DM anything as I had gifted her some extra money a couple of months ago on her birthday as I come into some money and she said to use it as her birthday and Christmas present seeing as it was significantly more than I would normally gift.
So now all I’ve heard everytime she has rung is moaning about how she didn’t get a Christmas gift… and I snapped yesterday at her saying I’ve had more important things going on over Christmas so gifts - especially ones I wasn’t expecting to buy - haven’t exactly been the first thing going on in my mind. There’s been no consideration of how the last 2-3 weeks have been at home, like I’ve genuinely hit rock bottom with DS behaviour, she seems to have forgotten she told me not to get her anything and actually giving me time to get back on my feet before sorting anything out.
She’s really fucked me off tbh with her priorities over presents rather than the bigger picture of it all - who is being unreasonable?