I want to leave him but need help

[Dominospizza]

I need to leave my DP. We aren’t married but we have a joint mortgage and a 5 year old.

I am so very unhappy and a lot of it stems from our relationship, he’s so rude to me. He can’t bear to speak to me and if I say anything he’ll roll his eyes, sigh or get really angry with me for no apparent reason. He’s never been physically abusive.

My main problem is this: I moved here 10 years ago and met him. However my whole family (and some friends) live a 3 or 4 hour drive away. If we split up I want to go back and be with my parents and extended family as I have no one here apart from his parents.

When I got upset the other night and said I wanted to leave, I told him I’d want to move to be with my family. He basically said I wasn’t going to be allowed to take our son with me and if I try to he will take me to court.

I can’t imagine not being with my son, but he’s not going to let me take him. Therefore I’ve got to stay here on my own, miles away from my family, but he has his parents round the corner.

I really don’t know what to do, can anyone please help or offer any advice?

The only other option is that I stay here and be unhappy and isolated with no support until he reached 17 or 18
Or you meet new friends, build a new social support arena and find happiness without your family close by.

I was in your situation and that's what I did. Made many new friends, and the new place slowly became home.

My kids are now adults and I'm so happy that I didn't made contact difficult if not impossible. I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if they had bad or no relationship with their dad and accused me of putting my needs before theirs.

What about moving halfway? If DS is settled in school you could have him weekends and holidays as his time with you.
As long as he has a relationship with both parents and is happy, and you're closer to home and not being abused it doesn't really matter which parent is doing the school week