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cadburyegg · 04/01/2024 15:00

My exh has quit his job and the combination of this and the fact he has the kids EOW means he doesn't have to pay any maintenance.

There is quite a lot of backstory on this and history of him being inconsistent with majntenance and contact. I am finding this plus his attitude towards the kids - they come last on his priority list - really difficult to accept. the youngest is in y1 so I will have to deal with this for quite some time yet.

I can feel myself becoming bitter, cross, resentful. I don't want to be this person. Does anyone else struggle with this. I know I just need to accept it because it's not going to change. It just seems to be my instinct to expect more from him than I am disappointed.

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BlouseyBrownMalone · 04/01/2024 15:18

My best friends husband left two weeks before Christmas a few years ago and promptly gave up his job so he didn't have to pay maintenance. He doesn't even have the children overnight Ashe moved back in with his parents so there was 'no room' apparently.

So she has no time without the children and she had to go from part time to full time in order to support her household. In the meantime he's just playing on the Xbox at his mam's.

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