I find something annoying / bad to think and say about everyone

[headph]

I just don't like people that much. I find I always have some negative thoughts about them.

I also have negative thoughts about myself. I don't think I'm perfect or anything like that.

But increasingly I can't think of anyone who doesn't kind of annoy me.

I KNOW I'm unreasonable and the problem definitely lies with ME. But I just can't stop myself thinking people are annoying / disliking them a little bit.

Not sure if it's just Christmas that has caused these feelings to come up so strongly or if I've had an epiphany that I'm a miserable cow.

I don't remember feeling like this when I was younger.

Just me or anyone else feeling this way, especially after Christmas perhaps ?

Who do you mean by "people"?

The people around you, who you know well? Acquaintances you know a bit, but not well? Or, like, everyone you meet when you're walking around?

If it's the first it may be worth asking yourself why you're friends with A, B and C; or why you allow toxic family members X, Y and Z in your life so much.

If it's the last it may be a sign of how you're feeling in yourself. If I'm in a foul mood, every second person I see on the street pisses me off. All the little annoyances get magnified. If I'm in a happy mood they roll right off me (as they should).

If it's the second it may be worth reminding yourself that 1) you don't actually know what's going on with them that well, 2) you can choose how much to actually interact with them.

I don't think finding others annoying and awful means you're a miserable cow. It's OK to recognise awful behaviour in others, there's plenty of it after all. But in terms of the people you see on a daily basis, it's important to remember that there is kindness and goodness out there, and to an extent you have to be proactive in surrounding yourself with it. It doesn't just come to you.

People arent real is a silly thing to say.

I've had some really shitty times and the last thing I want to do is moan about them to everyone I meet. I want distraction and if pretending to be happy or professional for a bit helps me cope so be it. I dont owe you happy, I dont owe you sad

Cold and inflexible is people being real. People dont have to have a laugh at themselves. You are the problem. And of you carry on voicing your pissyness about everyone to your DH and mum, they'll put up with you but they wont think you're up for a laugh about yourself or fun.

Stop putting others down to make yourself feel good. It's not a good look.

My opinion is that this is perfectly normal. But we’re so surrounded by the relentless bloody ‘positivity’ gurus on every nearly every tv and radio programme - especially at this time of year - that if you’re naturally of a slightly grumpy disposition you’re bound to feel that there’s something wrong. Personally I take great pleasure in finding most people annoying, and it does not mean I’m depressed.

Pot calling the kettle black

Your feelings are valid.

@headph good one. Feel better?

I hope you dont ask the people you talk shit about for help and support.

I would definitely rather spend an hour with the OP than with you, though.

@ManateeFair You say that so go message OP and invest some time with her. Or just say something else pointless to me.