to want to leave dh behind when he's making me late?

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arrgghh! I HATE when people make me late and dh is always doing it.
I got up this morning and got dcs up. called up to him in bed to say we were going swimming at 9.30 if he wanted to come. Took dog out for a walk and came back at 9.20. Got swimming stuff ready and at 9.30 dh said he would like to come but he just had to have breakfast.

I had really wanted to tell he was too late to come but thought it might be a little petty to drive off without him. I know that being a little late for everything rarely makes that much difference in the grand scheme of things but it just pisses me off so much because he does it ALL them time.

ooh I'm so glad I'm not alone, although it doesn't solve my problem it is comforting that people are driven equally mad. Him going for a poo as we are all sitting in the car with the engine running is a regular occurance.
Mehgalegs your story of you dh cleaning out fridge in pants while already late gave me such a jolt of recognition I wondered if my dh had a second family.
He know it annoys me intensely but is probably moaning to someone somewhere about the unreasonable flap I get into if we don't leave exactly on time.
I think I will leave him behind, just once and see if things improve.

Actually the meetings' story reminded me - the dc's infant school used to put on a little assembly-type thing once in a while, just for the parents of one class at a time. Anyway, we were all told, 2.30 in the hall. THEN, when we managed to get there in time (early infact , to get a seat) the teacher would come on and say, 'oh we'll just wait for those parents who are a bit late'! AAAAAAAARRRGHHH!

No we won't! WE HAVE GOT THERE ON TIME! IF THEY ARE LATE IT'S THEIR OWN FAULT!

Drove me mad. CAn you tell?

This pooing thing has reall made me think because my DH does it as well - the world stops turning because he needs a poo and he needs it NOW. And I've had the "urgent need" situations in my time, obviously, but generally don't ever expect anything to stop or wait while I take a dump. Why? Is it just that we're all so great ?

And agree absolutely about late people being of the belief that their time is more important than ours. I have an old school friend who comes over for a meal quite often. If I say 7pm, he regards 7pm as the time he should start getting ready to leave his house. Possibly he sees 7pm as the time to take a dump in readiness for my meal. By the time he arrives I'm having a hissy fit and am sulking.

My dh ALWAYS does this it drives me mad, and then he wonders why we always have an argument anytime we go out anywhere!!

If we have to go somewhere I tell him we have to be there 1 hour before we actually do, even so we're never early for anything! And then when we're ready to go and me and 3 dcs are sitting in the car he's in the toilet for half an hour.

He is always on time to go to work but never for anything else, and it's not just things I'm involved with it's his own stuff too.

Just drives me mad.

2girls, interesting how your dh is always on time to go to work... They can do it when it matters.

My dh leaves the house on the dot of 7.10 every morning, timing his walk to the minute to catch a train. But when you're talking about going to see my parents for lunch...