My daughter is now a tween. I split up with her dad when she was young (he wasn’t a nice character) and we co-parented for many years - so she built a bond with her dad.
When the pandemic happened we saw him on occasion and since the end of the lockdowns we haven’t seen him at all! He sends her a text on occasion and that is it!
My daughter thinks he is “useless” and she might say comments like “I bet he doesn’t know how tall I am” or “I can’t even remember what he looks like” - normally in a jokey manner but it’s still heartbreaking to hear.
The other day she had a rant about how she is so disconnected from her other culture. Me and her dad were born in the UK, our parents migrated here and we are from different countries of the same continent (different language, food, mannerisms, traditions etc). I’m being vague as I’m keen to hear experiences.
My daughter is fully immersed in my culture, but clearly she feels like she hasn’t had much exposure to the other side of her identity (and it’s becoming more important - with secondary school, friends talk about, convo starter etc). I didn’t think it would affect her - she is close to some people from her dads side but I guess not close enough.
My question is how much effort did you put into ensuring your children were exposed to their other culture even though as a parent you are not from the same place?
AIBU to think this could lead to an identity crisis - or am I overthinking - a large part of me feels like she can explore this as she grows up.