When someone reads your message and doesn’t reply

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Group invite for child’s party, people have read it a several hours ago today and not replied, aibu to assume they aren’t coming then? Whenever I get an invite to something I will always reply as soon as I read it, am I being over sensitive here?

I glance, then reply later when I have time.

All of this, or they're at work and will reply later once they're home.

Far too soon to be making assumptions they they won't come.

Today, I switched off Whatsapp notifications, except for really close people.

I've always had privacy switched on so people don't get read receipts.

I prefer to check it when it suits me. If something is urgent, people will call.

a party invite needs checking with more than one diary, probably.

I like to check with DH before agreeing to go to a party. Message them again tomorrow if you want to press, and give them a date to RSVP.

“Thank you to everyone who has replied. To those who haven’t yet, please could you let me know by Friday. Thanks!”

(Doesn’t matter if no one has actually replied- they could have done it privately. Best to create a sense that prompt replies are what everyone is doing.)

Yes I'm afraid you're definitely overthinking. I hate this kind of pressure- sometimes I read something but I'm with my kids, sometimes I click by accident, sometimes I'm exhausted or just don't have time to make a proper reply that second - give people a chance!

I respond when I'm ready. I'm not beholden to WhatsApp.

I aways reply within given timeframes.

It's like asking for read receipts on email, I will never accept one

Send a message in the morning saying sorry, i forgot to add the RSVP date, it is XXXX. Do that in the morning.

Then leave it. You will get responses but be patient, it's only been a day! Many parents will not even bother to RSVP. Don't be upset about that, no manners.

Next time, send individual invites and not group. People wait to see who responds/who is or isn't going. That's savvy!

They might need to check if the child can attend with a Co-parent because it falls in their time or similar.

This is what I was going to reply. I am the person who replies almost immediately when read if possible but if it's not my day then I can't.

You are overthinking massively, it’s been this morning doesn’t change anything. Some people might wait for going back to school if they want to check something with you or other parents e.g length, food, drop off/ pick up etc.
Some people are busy with family things and have very packed schedules over holidays so they will only sit and do planning when DC are back to school/ nurseries.

Deary me 🙄

I sometimes read a message and forget to reply or I reply but realise days later I didn’t press send! If only today,I really wouldn’t worry.
Am so glad that my children are so old that WhatsApp didn’t exist! I just spoke to parents at school and chased up if necessary.

They might be at work then driving etc etc

This.

It has changed my life completely for the better. Even turned off my 'active' on Facebook so I can't see if someone's online. The only thing I have kept on is the blue ticks on WhatsApp. I've muted a few people too.