It’s a bit of a long back story but I need advice whether to butt out and mind my own business or quietly say something.
I work pretty closely with a very nice chap. We’ve worked together for 10 years or so and it’s generally just us in the department so we chat a lot about pretty much anything etc. He is just that, a very nice man. Clever, quite serious with a good sense of humour and an all round thoroughly decent fellow. About 5 years ago, his former wife used to work at the same company and had an affair with someone else at our company. It was all a bit of a scandal, the marriage split and the ex wife and her other man moving on to new employment. They now have 50:50 and he seems to be a proper 50:50 dad rather than a maintenance dodging bare minimum overnight only dad (I have one of those and can spot them at 20 paces). This is all water under the bridge now and everything seems to have settled down.
The point of my post is that about 6 months ago he met someone new, his first post marriage relationship, and it sounds like they are absolutely smitten with each other. She has put a real spring in his step and, from what he tells me, she is very happy to work round his kids. Somewhat randomly, someone else I know used to work with her and says she is absolutely wonderful. It all sounds simply great and like a nice man and a nice woman have got together and are busy falling in love. Frankly I am thoroughly delighted for him.
This is my AIBU. Various people in our workplace still know the XW and she has got wind of his new relationship and is furious, absolutely steaming furious. She has supposedly made comments that she doesn’t want him with anyone else, that she is supposed to be his lost love and that she can have him back any time she wants, he shouldn’t be with anyone else, that she is going to force him to end it with her, etc. It’s not ok, she was even threatening to weaponise this kids. She ended the marriage, is still with the OM, but doesn’t want him moving on.
He is oblivious to this and blissfully happy with his lovely new woman, but I really feel like I ought to say something. Even if it is just a quiet heads up that there is gossip. We’re close enough that I can say something, but I don’t want to pass on unfounded rubbish. I really don’t know what to do.