Crying - please help with floor grouting

[Loussa]

Hi. I have just bought a new house (first time buyer). Spent more than I can afford (well close to) on a brand new kitchen. We went for limestone effect porcelain tiles (matte).

Ive had to be without my karcher for two months - got lost in the move. Full disclosure we have 2 golden retrievers. I’ve done my best with the flash speed mop but the floors have been trashed.

Gave it a good clean but the grout looks
disgusting still. I’ve told DH not to walk the dogs in the woods but he has ignored me. Dh has called me not to get fixated.

How can I get them back? Do I need to regrout?

As other posters have pointed out, you cannot have a perfect house if you are the owner of 2 golden retrievers. I have a goldie who loves to swim in the sea, consequently our floors are always covered in sand. I've just got used to it now.

I thought the same op!!! I can’t tell the difference

Grout is porous. It's always going to absorb the dirt, even if you give it a wipe straight after walking the dogs. Short of being prepared to scrub it all the time I would re grout dark grey. Or stop stressing about it and learn to cope with it.

I think maybe go see a doctor and seek treatment, hair,pulling must be very extreme, as is crying over totally fine grouting. For your own sake.💐

That's exactly what I was thinking.

So is he taking them out and letting them get muddy and then letting them into the house to track mud everywhere without even trying to clean them up first because floors are your responsibility? So he just doesn’t care if they get them filthy because you have to clean it up?

If that’s the case then your husband is a complete douche. Have one or two set days that you clean the floors and every time he brings the dogs in dirty to make a mess for you in between those days he can clean it up himself. Arsehole.

Edit: Especially if he’s also purposely waiting until it rains to walk them like you said in another post. If he’s deliberately being disrespectful and making more work for you then you have much bigger problems than grout and would get different responses if you had focused on his behaviour.

Your dogs wellbeing in more important than your grout. You need to get over this. You are simply in the wrong and being unreasonable.

You've got 2 dogs, of course your house wont stay spotless- that's my main reason for not having pets (the kids give it a fair go at making their own mess!)

I can see more of a difference in the second picture, but not so much that I would get upset.
I do think this is part of a bigger picture about both your relationship and your mental health.

There is no need to ever cry over grout! Spend about £300 getting the floor regrouted in darker coloured epoxy grout. To be honest it doesn't look like they did a good job of the grout anyway.

You need to let your DH live his life and enjoy walking the dogs whenever he wants. Houses get dirty, it's not a big deal.

Why can’t you keep yourself in check? Crying about grout is not normal and you will alienate him.

you must know this or you wouldn’t asking. So just stop.

Oh my God who cares. The difference to anyone but you is barely noticeable even when you look for it.

It is truly and completely batshit to curtail the lives of the actual beings who live in your house for the sake of the floor grout. Actually insane. Either regrout in a darker colour or accept that absolutely nobody but you even notices, but a mad mopping schedule or the dogs not getting dirty are not remotely realistic options.

Am with BusySittingDown- I must have low standards as it all looks good to me. I’m the nicest way leave your dh alone and enjoy the dogs!!! (I don’t know how to say this nicely but I don’t mean to be mean!!)

Did you seal the grout when you had the tiles laid?

Vinegar and a good scrub helps.

OP please seek help for your condition or it will ruin your life and your relationships.
You already seem to have a lot of resentment towards your partner and your dogs and you are making their lives harder. This cannot be good for you.

Of course he's not deliberately waiting until it rains to walk the dogs to torture OP, and the fact that OP thinks he is says that some mental health support is now probably needed.

Honestly, it’s barely noticeable and it’s floor grout!! Who cares? I think seeing your GP would be a good idea.

We had cream tiles and cream grout at my last house - I used a scrubbing brush and diluted bleach - worked really well.

Crying is really quite extreme. You cannot expect to have a properly clean house with those two dogs. Not just the grout area either.

Try and aim to be ‘good enough’ in all areas of life rather than perfect. It makes things so much easier.

My dog is a lazy sod who won’t go near muddy woods. But my tiles still look like that. It’s life and general activity I’m afraid.

We Scrubbed all our grout on hands and knees with a toothbrush a while ago. It was painstaking and then still happens so I think I’m living with the discolouration now.

I say this kindly but , get a grip , dogs and a clean house don't go together.
The floor looks fine stop fixating.

I thought this too. OP needs to get some help with her mental health.

You being disproportionately upset over the grout is a symptom of your mental health issues. Please talk to your GP.

Kindly you need cbt

It will all kind of blend in and "season" in time, like a good cast iron sauce pan, a copper kettle, or the patina on the Statue of Liberty.

And it will be liberating.

Unclench if you can...