now you may know from orecious posts that my mil is a cowbag but the other day she looked after ds (6) and dd (2) for two hours ehilst i went to work
now i do appreciate her looking after them, for no cash etc esp as dh has been workking away.....
but....
when i got home she was sat on the sofa and the room was trashed (i say this and am def not a super tidy person so trust me it was a state)
the tea time things had been left on the table for the cat to pick over (do not expect her to wash up or clean but to just scrape into bin and stick next to the sink isn;t too hard is it?) all the toys were out dd's kitchen had been taken to pieces and other things were broken... wby can;t she just say no to them
so have decided that she can come to visit obv but won;t be accepting her offer to sit for us again, she was really offended about this and kept going on that i don;t have a prob letting my mum look after them (but then i doesn;t end up taking m three hours to tidy up, mop the floor etc fix broken toys)
she is generally not v nice to dd and always calls her names and says she is messy and her fave phrase is that she is a "dirty arab!!" which i have repeatedly asked her not to say
she continues to smoke in my house when i am not there and lies about it even though the house stinks on my return
i have been diplomatic when telling her no about sitting and have invited her for tea instead but she insists she wants to take them smewhere for the day etc (last time she took ds on his own she accidently locked him in the car with her car keys!!) she isn;t well enough imho to catch dd if she was to run off and will smoke all over them
sorry am going on but need to get it off my chest
am 14 weeks pregnant and just think it's best to stop her sitting now before she starts wanting to have the newborn too
aibu if i am i blame the hormones!!