See dad for a few hours or not

[Dryupyourdesertwithtears]

I have a very distant relationship with my bio dad. We don't stay in touch at all (my choice), he has never lived in my country. I'm currently in the same town as him by chance, do I knock on his door or not?
He hasn't been very well, my half sister told me, and he is getting old. I'm not sure how I would feel if he dies and I hadn't been to see him.
On the other hand, he will moan that I am leaving town tomorrow night. He will try to make me stay and the pressure of there only being a few hours will make it somehow less natural? A part of me just thinks let the past stay in the past. I also have my children with me who have never met him.

Spontaneously drop in on him with your kids in tow? Nah.

. I'm not sure how I would feel if he dies and I hadn't gone to see him

there’s your answer

If you don't go now how realistic is it that you will ever again? If you are torn over something like this, it's always best to do it.

I wouldn't just knock no. But I'd contact him and say I'm here would it be OK to pop in.

Go and see him. Don’t be guilt tripped about your return tomorrow.

I'd ring and tell him you are in town for just one day. Ask to pop in to see him. Maybe he'd like to see your kids. It might be the only time they ever see their Granddad too. I wouldn't take that away from them.

If it were me, I think I would go, even if it was just for a little while. Especially if I wasn't sure I'd ever see him again.