Leaving a perfectly happy LTR?

[Peckahminn11]

Partner is 28, in 26. Been in a very loving and happy relationship for 5 1/2 years. We rarely argue or fight and he is the most caring loving man I've ever been with. However, our sex life is a shambles and I no longer feel sexually attracted to him. We have had this issue for around 2/3 years now and have discussed it on multiple occasions. Things still haven't changed. It's me, not him FYI. I just feel I need to be on my own, but I'm scared to leave. We've built a lovely home together, got greats mutual friends and our family's fit perfectly. From an outsiders views, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I just feel I've lost myself a bit, put on weight and feel I want my independence back. I want sex and I don't want it with him. It breaks my heart because he is the perfect man in every way. Hands on, helps around
The house, does is share of chores. I do have to nudge him a lot to get things done as he can be lazy and forget to do things but overall. He's 10/10. Why am I not happy! He's attractive, lovely body etc.

It's breaking me that I feel this way. I sat him down tonight and told him I'm not happy and feel I need to leave. Obviously he is devastated. Have I just got too comfortable? I don't understand my own mind.

I'm scared the grass won't be greener and people keep telling me that. The last thing I want is another relationship after this. I just feel I need to be on my own.

Any advice is welcome please

Why awful? Bullet dodged there then. You have absolutely done the right thing.

no doubt you’d have said yes because he is nice and have been back on here, 2 kids, 10 years older. Still not happy, still not having orgasms, carrying much more of the mental load.

You are 26. You have plenty of time to find someone else. I was in your shoes once (exact same situation really) and once I ended things, I met my now husband. And that genuinely IS a ‘perfectly lovely relationship’

Well done, OP. Be kind to yourself.

You've done the right thing. You're not compatible with each other. Imagine resigning yourself to a lifetime of bad sex or no sex.

Wishing you all the very best!

It’s not ‘awful’ in the sense that you mean — another way of looking at it is to think he was being pretty presumptuous to propose marriage to someone who has clearly expressed her unhappiness with a ‘shambolic’ sex life he’s made no effort to improve, and who has to be reminded to pull his weight around the house.

You did the right thing. Don’t look back.

Thank you @Mmhmmn