Anyone just stopped caring about ageing?

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I'm still in my 30s so I know people will say I'm not 'qualified' to speak about the subject just yet, however I have signs of ageing even if they aren't as prominent as in someone 40+.
I have slight crows' feet, 11 lines forming, slightly dark circles/under eyes, skin isn't as radiant as before, loss of facial volume so face is a lot less round than in my 20s, more pronounced nasolabial folds, and small marionette lines.
I do still look young and I am, however I still have signs of ageing.
The nasolabial folds were getting me down because I felt they looked severe, so I got filler in them and only a small amount, honestly so much happier with the result.
However I've been eyeing up Botox, filler and so on. Part of me just can't be bothered.. I know that if I start now I'll have to do all the upkeep for the next however many years.
It'll get addictive and expensive.. I do think small amounts of the above can look good and natural.
My Mum at 57 has had nothing at all done and looks absolutely fine, still obviously her just older, despite smoking.
Anyway would be interested to hear how other people have found this.

I meant to say I've been eyeing up Botox and filler for all the other mentioned areas*

I don't think about it at all.. I wash with whatever face wash I have, moisturise and that's it. Has been that way for 25years at least. I don't wear foundation/base. Just eyeliner/lipstick. I've found/seen the more you mess with your skin the quicker it ages. I have friends who religiously have regimes including weekly facials and premium skincare brands.. and I don't think its working. Yes genetics probably plays a part but.. I think internal health trumps expensive skincare. Lots of water, sleep and a good moisturiser are my advice. I'm 47 .

Yeah. I used to keep Clarins in business and genuinely thought that, with all my careful skin regimes and exercises, massages and healthy dieting, I was "delaying the signs of ageing". Then I got older, the menopause happened, the collagen in my skin started visibly collapsing (it's quite interesting to observe), arthritis crept in, my hairs migrated southwards and my waist is doing its best to merge with my hips.

It bothered me for about a year, maybe a bit less! Once you're past your forties, people in your peer group start dying: I found that reset my perspective very effectively. The "signs of ageing" aren't the curse I'd been led to expect: they're signs of life!

I'm alive at 68. I look about 68. Fuck you, Clarins, I could have paid down my mortgage with what you got for your meaningless promises 😂

Once you're past your forties, people in your peer group start dying: I found that reset my perspective very effectively. The "signs of ageing" aren't the curse I'd been led to expect: they're signs of life

Yes, this. I'm in my 70s. My face may look as if I'm in my 80s. But I'm conscious of the fragility of my body and I'm not going to anything unnecessary to it. Meanwhile I'm content with being able to walk at speed, climb stairs, sit on the floor and get up without a performance.

I'm 47, quite happy with how I look. I rarely wear make up. I don't have a problem with getting older and would prefer to look like me as I really don't like the way fillers etc look, and in my opinion look worse on older people. I'm not sure why there's such an obsession with staying 'youthful' and your neck/ hands etc will always give you away. I'd rather grow older gracefully- Audrey Hepburn is my all time icon.

I am quite proud of looking older. I've really earned this age, a lot has happened in my life and I'm proud to wear it. I think I look good, not young but good. I felt less secure about my looks when younger. Now I like what see. No make up. Busy and engaged in life.

Stop looking in the mirror. A cursory glance while brushing your hair or to do makeup but don't stand there examining your wrinkles etc. You'll be much happier. I started down that rabbit hole and decided just to stop. The fact you even know those terms for wrinkles/ folds/ whatever means you're also spending lots of time reading about signs of aging, treatments etc. Just stop. Spend your time doing something else, turn your thoughts to other things. As far as I'm aware I haven't aged in the last 7 years - apart from the very obvious more grey hair which I do dye - blissful ignorance. No-one else cares how old you look.

Absolutely, I'm 46 and don't care how I look.

Im 55 and it’s never crossed my mind to have Botox or any other work done . I care about my appearance but Im happy enough with how I look and don’t want to mess with my face.

I wear make up when I go out and I have my hair coloured but that’s as far as it goes.

I’ve been lucky with my genetics that I’ve got very few lines despite being a lifelong sunsworshipper. I’m very happy to grow old gracefully

My daughter's best friend is a chemist specialized in beauty products. She says by far , the best anti-age product for your skin is sunscreen , wear it all over your body and stay out of the sun.

Age is a privilege, embrace it.

I didn’t know that all the different wrinkles had their own names! I probably have most of them but don’t know give a shit tbh (I’m 41)

Absolutely. My friend passing away with leukaemia at 39 totally changed my outlook on life.

This.
Give up your obsession with a mirror.

In my 40s I had two small children and no time to think about it, I stopped caring about aging completely when I was in my 50s. No-one notices or cares what you look like once past your youth. Life is not about appearances and vanity is an ugly trait.

I have stopped caring about looking aged, but I do very much care about not feeling aged. I am 58. I still take an interest in my appearance but my main focus is on the really important stuff. Feeling well, keeping fit, feeling as strong as I can, posture, staying healthy etc. How you look shifts to the bottom of the list when you get older.

Learned a lot of terms from your post, which probably speaks volumes. Unless there is something extreme about your skin which is out of the ordinary for your age then I'd not consider doing anything tbh. Given you DO know all the terms I imagine it's a point of hyperfixation for you.

I've dysmorphia so aging was never a panic for me cos I don't really know what I look like anyway. That said - hitting my 40's (now 45) my dysmorphia doesn't bother me in the least, it's still there, but it doesn't torture me any more so I guess that's the same thing that age brings to a lot of women. I've actually never felt more at ease in my skin.

I do have a skincare routine, ish, but really all that does is help with texture & tone, not wrinkles & sagging, that's just going to happen & that's fine cos this face has done a lot of laughing, crying & living to get to this point & I'm cool with that.

Do not resent growing old. It is a privilege denied to many.

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I saw that quote years ago and it hit home. I’m in my 40s. My hair is starting the inexorable shift to white (sadly we have to do grey first, ho hum). I have no idea what the terms are for any beautification products and I’ve not worn makeup for about a decade. I try to remember to use sunscreen. I look great according to DH.

Beauty companies are trying to steal your money with false promises. Life is better when you don’t worry about appearance and you just enjoy it.

I'm 60 and the only " treatment" I use is tretinoin . I use it only because of the stress that caring for my dementia ridden DMiL made me age. I'm now back to what I think I'd be without the stress

Never cared about it nor have I ever counted my wrinkles - I couldn't even tell you where I have them. Make up for me for special occasions is a quick coat of mascara. As others have said - aging is a privilege not awarded to all so embrace it.

Keeping strong, active and brain exercised is far more important than the skin on your face.