NYE invite to friend

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Friends for over 20 years. Invited her and her family for dinner last night. Said I would be on my own for NYE otherwise.
She said she would get back to me to confirm.
We did speak again about it but nothing said over the past week. She did not reply to messages during the week.
Asked her today why she hadn't replied - she told me she had invited people to hers so did not bother replying to me, why did she not say when I first asked.
I am obviously quite upset about it.
AIBU for telling her what I think and to cut contact.

This seems extraordinary. Does she have form for this kind of behaviour?

She sounds lovely. I hope no one was sick down the back of her couch or anything.

I just wouldn't bother with her in future.

On your own and invited her, I'm really upset for you that she didn't invite you over with her other guests. She is not a friend. Sorry OP. Onwards to the new year, find new friends who care about you.

It sounds like she didn't want to fall in with your plans, and then didn't want the awkwardness of telling you so. She definitely should have confirmed what was happening, but unless there's a back story, cutting contact seems a bit extreme.

She's very thoughtless. Take a step back from her.

Hope you enjoyed some food and TV in the end.

She's not showing herself to be your friend Op. I think it's time to cut contact. Why couldn't she invite you to hers? I'd be very hurt.

I can understand why you are upset if being with someone for NYE is that important. But did you really tell her that you were inviting her to avoid being alone? Because that is incredibly manipulative, and it's not unexpected that she would take it that way.

Why didn't she invite you to hers knowing you'd be on your own?. Yes she could have said sorry I've made plans , bit rude to just not reply! I'd just keep a bit if a distance with her in future

Unless there's a backstory about you dragging down the mood because of the way life has turned out, then she isn't really a friend. She would have invited you to hers otherwise.

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If you were her friend she'd have said something to you not just let you hang on then say "oh sorry I invited friends round"
That's so harsh!

Find yourself a good friend. Do you have hobbies/interests so you can meet people?

Did she invite family to hers or friends? If it was a family get together then you can’t be annoyed at her for not inviting you. It would have been kind though if she knew you were on your own. In my opinion you really shouldn’t have told her that if she didn’t come over with her family then you would be on your own on NYE. Try to widen your social circle this year so you don’t have to rely on her as much. A good friend would have invited you over if you were on your own, not ignored your messages. 💐💐

As I said, we’ve been friends for 20 years. She knows my circumstances at the moment, my partner died 3 years ago. I wasn’t trying to be manipulative just honest. I have a dog which is probably why I wasn’t invited to hers. Some family were visiting that I know well which was why I invited them here as they haven’t been to my new house yet. But she had invited other friends to her house. If she had said she was doing something else it would have been fine, I could have organised something else. It was the keeping me hanging.

Sorry OP a friend doesn't treat you like that. Your NY resolution should be to reduce your contact with her.

I'm sorry OP, but this friend does not value or respect you. There is no way in the world anyone thinks they can just blank someone's invitation and then actually tell them that's what they've done, and not know that they are being rude and offensive. This 'friend' either doesn't care if she offends you, or takes you so far for granted she expects you'll get over it. Either way, there is no equality here. For your own self respect you should get some distance.